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Friends of ours are LDS and they totally committed to letting God dictate their family size. It was crazy to us because they started while our husbands were in grad school together (and in their culture women don't work), so they were as broke as we were. They (kindly, and with best intentions) tried to convince us to start our family ASAP as well.. but we waited until we were more financially stable. 5 years later they have 4 kids and are excited for more!
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I am Christian but don't know any "natural planning" families like that!
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Sort of my brother? He and his wife believe God won't give them more children than they can handle, but my SIL practices NFP (they're at 5 kids now).
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We know one family - DH works with the husband. They're at 5 right now, but I'm not sure if they're done.
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Yup, I was homeschooled some growing up so I knew several. One has 10 kids & another has 9 (and counting) and she's only a couples years older than me (yikes!!).
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I only know of one family for a fact- my FIL is a partner in a private practice and one of his partners daughters is QF. It's actually kind of crazy- her husband is a teacher and she stays at home, and they basically live like pioneers. I guess they started out believing she was unable to have children, and were adopting two little boys (brothers). The day they picked them up she found she was pregnant. They now have seven, and ether three or four of them are adopted.
We also have a cousin on my husbands side with 7 kids that's wicked religious and homeschools, so I believe they are also QF but I wouldn't feel comfortable asking.
My MIL is one of six but after the first two her mom insists she was actually preventing when the other were conceived. I guess birth control in the 50s was awful? My MIL and husband wouldn't be here if it had worked though so I'm not complaining =)
My in laws are bible literalist evangelical Christians so I have met so many interesting characters through them. Growing up in Massachusetts and being nonreligious it's been kind of a culture shock.
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I don't. I do know some Catholics who have big families. But that is different than the quiverfull movement. And technically Catholics don't believe in "letting God determine the size of their family," like QFs practice. Catholics don't believe in using artificial contraception, but natural family planning is okay. Although, as a Catholic,
I believe in letting God determine the size of my family. And if God wants me to have a kid, a tiny little pill won't stop him.
Our kids are 17 mo apart and so everyone was like, "oh yeah, because you're Catholic?" No...just dumb enough to think because I was still BFing 7-8 times a day, amenorrheic, and doing PNP,
we wouldn't get pregnant!ETA: TWO of DH's coworkers each have 5 kids. One family is fostering 3, and the other just had lots of babies. They are only 29! I don't know the backstory. I think the wife is Catholic. Or maybe they just like kids.
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I don't and had never heard of it before HB. 4 is the max # of kids for people I know IRL, except a couple of LDS coworkers that are on 5. I worked in OB in NYC so we took care of a lot of orthodox Jewish moms and I've seen some very high numbers there.
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My husband's family is Catholic, and even some of his cousins are still into as many kids as possible. His mom is one of 10. His younger cousin (I believe he's 29) is having his 4th right now. His other cousin just had her 3rd ... Both have said they will have as many kids as God intends. Both of these cousin's parents had 6+ kids though, so I wonder if it's less to do with religion, and more to do with what they grew up with.
This thread gives me anxiety!
I'm good with one.
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Never heard of it, but I'm from the UK and I don't think this is common there.
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I don't know of any QF people. My dad is one of eight and my grandma is the youngest of 13!
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I don't know of any but it might be more regional too? I grew up mostly in the Northeast so it doesn't seem as common here (whether it's QF, home schooling, etc.) as in other parts of the US.
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No. I don't think it's very common in the north east.
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Its too expensive to raise that many kids around here!
And not quiver full, but ultra orthodox Jews also have as many kids as G-d gives them. I don't really know any families personally though.
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My grandparents were like this, but that was obviously a long time ago. I think my mom's side has 14 kids, and my dad's 15 kids. How on earth did my gma's get through all of that, I don't know...and in Dominican Republic nonetheless
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Even the Catholics I know family plan - they just use natural methods. I babysat for a family of 9 when I was younger - and they planned out when their kids were born to the month (no two shared a month on purpose).
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Nope!
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Quiverfull is an actual religious sect/way of thinking within fundamentalist Christianity (so not Catholic, etc.) It's its own thing.
My family was "quiverfull" in the early years of my family, but then my parents became much more liberal. They are definitely much different people than they used to be. They are religious, but their politics resemble liberal Democrats these days.
We have 22 kids in our family - 12 via adoption, so though my mother was pregnant many times, we were not your standard Quiverfull family. They wanted a large family, and also wanted to adopt.
However, the vast majority of my siblings have no desire to have children at all, as adults. lol.
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I'm a teacher at an affluent private catholic school - there are multiple families here with 5+ children. One family in particular that comes to mind have 5 girls and a boy - at on point all 6 of them were enrolled in the school at one time - tuition for the eldest (in grade 11) was $28000/yr, and there was a 10% discount for the next, 20% for the third, and so one - all up I think they would have been paying $100000/yr at a minimum in tuition, not to mention uniforms, sporting costs, school trips, etc. They also owned 2 Porsche Cayennes to ferry their brood around. That's what its like where I live and teach - outwardly it seems like Catholic values that prompt people to have large families, but in reality a lot of it has to do with showing off your wealth.
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I don't. The biggest family I know has 5 kids and they were planning on 4 but the last "one" was twins
Both parents come from big families, I don't think it is a religious thing.
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I've never heard of this term until today! It is super expensive around here so most families only have 2-3 kids anyway.
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I do! An old roommate of mine is one of 8 and she herself has 4 and she just turned 32.
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So I understand the birth control aspect but do they not believe in pulling out either?
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I have never heard of this term!
@cookiemomster: Not to side track, but I read a fascinating article about birth control the other day. When the pill was first available, the only way you could get it in some states is if you were married and had your husband's permission! It was enlightening what women had to go through and what many of us take for granted.
I'm good with one.
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