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I don't, yet. I have an acquaintance that is 16 weeks pregnant and find out tomorrow the gender.

She has been, since 4 weeks pregnant, putting up baby girl clothes, buying girl things, has already named the baby a girl name and refers to all baby things as "she/her" She told me that she absolutely does not want a boy and will basically have a meltdown if it turns out to be a boy. It's really sad to watch her obsessing over all this girl stuff because it could be a boy..

@MrsTiz: oh no....that may be a bit overboard

@MrsTiz: I'm hoping she gets the girl she wants, but if it's a boy what will she do with all of that stuff? Goodness!

@Bao: I' m not sure! Probably have a funeral for all of her hopes and dreams lol!

Yes. I had a friend who literally had an emotional breakdown when she found out she was having a boy. She was still obsessing about how much she wanted a girl MONTHS after the baby was born. She always called him "my smelly boy".

@MrsTiz: I hope that she gets her girl. I had the strongest feeling that LO was a boy. I was right. Does she have a feeling that it's a girl? I mean, I really, really sensed that my LO was a boy long before the gender scan. Even my colleague with two boys and now a girl looked at one of my ultrasounds and said boy. My DH wanted a girl, but got over it. Both of us did and love our son.

I know someone who was pretty extreme, but once the baby arrived she said she couldn't imagine it any other way. I can relate to that because I struggled some (though I don't know that I would say it was an "extreme" case) when we found out we were having boys. I just scared I would never be able to relate to my sons like I would my daughters . . . and also I was really nervous about all the mischief twin boys would get into together. Actually, I'm still nervous about that! While I still want a daughter someday, I love, love, love my boys, and I wouldn't trade them for a billion girls. They're so much fun!

DH, he went to therapy.

DS is his best friend now and he couldn't imagine it any other way, he just loves him so much.
(His reaction stemmed from having a really horrible abusive family and a terrible father.)

I know that I will only be disappointed in the fact that all my girl stuff will have to be traded for boy stuff and never be used. But, all I really want is a healthy baby to take home, so I really don't care what I have next...as long as it's a baby!

@rachiecakes: My DH also had a bio dad that left. Men in his family are all idiots to put it lightly. He was afraid that our LO would turn out like the men in his family. Here's to hoping that I'm a good strong influence and LO doesn't turn out like the idiot men on my DH's side.

@MrsTiz: Wow! Now you totally have to tell us what she's having, lol!

DH strongly thought E was a girl, because I'm fairly certain he secretly wanted a boy. (His dad was older and they never really got the chance for father/son bonding, even though they shared many of the same interests.) The OB *guessed* E was a girl at an early ultrasound, we told the world we were having a girl, then at the anatomy US, we found out E was really a boy. We would have been ecstatic either way, but in a weird way, I feel like we got to enjoy both!

Me.

I wrote a blog post when I found out my son was a boy. I considered not having another biological child. I was in a very bad place. Now I love my son and I'm 13 weeks pregnant again.

We had our NT scan yesterday. I'm pretty sure it's another boy (13 weeks is really early to tell though) and I'm having trouble dealing with it. I'm angry with myself for how I'm feeling and seriously wondering if we, as a family, would have been better off adopting and considering another biological child down the road instead of "risking" it and saying "we can always adopt if it's another boy."

I have a history of panic attacks and feeling this way really puts me on edge (I'm tearing up writing this), so yeah, I'd say it's pretty extreme.

I hate that people look down on me for feeling so strongly about having a girl. I can't help the fact that I want a daughter Obviously I'll love the baby no matter what, it's just really hard for me to imagine myself having a fulfilled-feeling life without a daughter in it.

Yeah. Me. I feel incredibly guilty for it, but I'm so scared to have another girl and not knowing is killing me. I think I feel like my one daughter is so perfect and just the right amount of girlyness, I'm so afraid another girl just won't measure up. My boy is pretty awesome too, but I really prefer the brothers picture to the sisters picture. I know, it's awful. I'm trying to get over it. I know if Cricket is a girl, that I'll get over it pretty quickly and not want it any other way once s/he's here, but, yeah... I think I'm still traumatized by growing up with 6 sisters. All those teenage girls in one house is a scary thing, y'all. And girls just seem so much harder to raise well compared to boys. I think I can do right by my first girl, but I don't know about a second- EEK.

@MrsTiz: I am nervous for her. Let us know what she is having.

I was a little disappointed to find out we were having a boy. I actually cried when I found out. And then I felt bad that I was crying. I had been so looking forward to having a girl. Now at 22 weeks I love my son already and I'm happy we're having him and can't wait to see DH and him together.

But I'm afraid I will be EXTREMELY disappointed if our next is a boy because I won't get to be a mom to a girl. I've even been considering adoption. I haven't had an easy time being pregnant and I'm already 35 so the thought of just adopting next time and not having to go through all that and getting to specify a girl is pretty appealing.

@Smurfette: @Espion: I will! Her appointment is tomorrow and she'll text me right away, she doesn't have any pregnant friends/family so she thinks I am a genius about all things baby/pregnancy and comes to me first.. no need to mention I only know what HB teaches me, right? baha

@MsLipGloss: yeah, especially when she's saying it in front of my SON. "oh my god, boys are ew, I could never have a boy, I could not handle that... I need to have a girl, if I had a boy I would just die." Not very... nicepanda.

@FarmWifeGina: I totally understand what you are feeling (I was so nervous about possibly parenting a "pink princess"!) But if it makes you feel any better, I LOVE my little sister. Couldn't imagine life without her.

@Dandelion: Your MIL is crazy. There's no way you can control what baby pops out of you. I'd laugh at her if she said anything otherwise. Try to see the comedy in her comments. You don't need any more stress, you know?