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My ILs don't come upstairs too often fortunately, so I haven't had this issue yet. My MIL doesn't like us to even go upstairs in her house, so I don't think that she would try to go in our bedroom.
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I guess I'm the minority...... I don't mind them in there.
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My inlaws have never been to my house, but my mom only went into our bedroom/bathroom once uninvited and she hasn't gone back since. She's weird about bathrooms and sometimes doesn't like to use the main bathroom. Once the baby comes I'm going to make it clear that the bedroom/bathroom is off limits.
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I think both of our entire immediate families have been in our master multiple times. And a lot of our friends. We keep a pretty open house, and I try to keep our "sexy" stuff put away because of it. I'm super respectful of other people's masters though, because I know a lot of people are not comfortable with it.
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I'm with @artbee... I don't mind at all. We only have two bathrooms in our house, so when we have company over, we tell people to use both of them (we have an en suite, so you have to go through our bedroom to access the 2nd bathroom). No biggie to me.
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MIL comes in often and I don't mind at all. We're best friends and she would only come in if she was invited. Even if she tidied up in our room while I was gone I wouldn't mind. There is nothing for her to find that would embarass me or DH.
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@wonderstruck: yes exactly. We had just had scribbles party and I had used the bedroom as a place to stow everything I didn't want people to see, and since we were on vacation the week before, I didn't have the chance to clean the bathroom and it was filthy. We also keep sexy time stuff in drawers but the condom wrappers just kind of float around (I tell DH he has got to pick em up but who wants to do that right after sex, usually in the middle of the night! Then the next day we end up forgetting about them). Our ILs come over at least weekly if not more frequently than that so it would be annoying to me to have to clean up for them multiple times a week. In the summer they used to like to use our bedroom to change before swimming in our pool, and that stressed me out.
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I really don't see what the big deal is. If they want to see our master, then fine. Its not like some secret room. If they wanted to hang out in there, then yes, I would think it was weird!
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Oh ho ho ho no. No one comes into my bedroom. There's no reason to. There's no ensuite and it's on the second floor. Having said that, all the sexy stuff is generally in a drawer, so I don't worry about that, and if someone were babysitting, I'm not really in control over what they do, so I'd probably just make sure the bed was made.
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Our bedroom is probably one of the cleanest rooms in the house, so I don't really care if people see it. With that said, it's on the 4th floor of our house (living room and kitchen are on 2nd) and I highly doubt anyone would just go up there. I'd get really weirded out though if I was nursing with a closed door and someone tried to come in. That's just having no respect for boundaries.
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I doesn't really bother me unless the room is a mess. Our main floor bath has a cheater door to our room so sometimes it's open and they can see in. No big deal.
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I can see no reason to let them into our master. If it was our smaller house where it was RIGHT THERE, where with the door open it's all visible, then I would care less. But with this house it being more of an actual master and set off a bit, when they've visited we've never let them in there. It would have to be to show them something specific where I invited my IL's in, and I would be put off if they followed me in there or went in their without an invitation.
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When my DH and I briefly lived with my inlaws, I got annoyed with my MIL, cause she would go in our room and just lay on the bed...it would gross me out, for no real reason, except it's MY bed...get off!
Now we're in our own place she doesn't do it...I don't know what will happen when LO arrives, though.
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It's not like it's "off limits" or anything, I mean, I would never think to go out of my way to ask them to stay out or close the door or anything, but at the same time, there really isn't any need for them to be in there--so there isn't much concern for me.
If something happened like @Dandelion: said, they would wander in and lounge on the bed or go through the closet or something, yeah, I'd bring it up, but it hasn't been, and I don't foresee it being an issue at all.
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We keep the doors to all of our rooms closed... so they don't go in any of them honestly. Buuuuuut, I've seen footprints in our bedroom after we've been gone and they looked after our animals. *angry eyes*
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I love my MIL and dont mind her in our room.. we used to have LO's crib in our room so she had to come in when she babysat
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We almost always visit them and not the other way around so it hasn't really been an issue. However, DH is very close with his parents and I am too. For this reason, DH thought it would be awesome to let MIL sleep in our bed WITH ME when she invited herself to stay over one night. I was caught off guard, but when she left the next day, we definitely had a discussion about it.
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Nope. I tried to keep our bedroom off limits to her during her visit back in October. No matter how closed the door was, she found a way to get in there. It was really annoying since she treated our home and our family so poorly during that visit.
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No way!
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We've let my ILs and DH's grandparents sleep in our bed when they visit. It doesn't bother me for them to be in our room. We just clean it before they come visit! They live 8+ hours away, though.
I guess I can see all y'alls point about it being a private space, we've just never had an issue with it.
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never. We keep our door shut when we have guests. Even my mom doesn't come into our room. It's our private place.
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