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Of course! I'm his mom, not his servant. I make sure he eats before I do. His sleep needs obviously come first. However, if it isn't an immediate need and I have to do something, I ask him to wait. He's pretty good at keeping himself occupied so that I can shower and get ready. I try to involve him in cooking and cleaning so he isn't constantly bugging me to do something else. Other than that, I tell him that we can do <insert random activity/request> as soon as mommy is finished <keeping myself alive, house from crumbling to the ground, etc>.

Yes, especially pregnant, I have to listen to my body and if that means putting down my clingy toddler who doesn't want to walk, but I know is too heavy to carry (although a fit will happen) then so be it. I will also sneak away and take a bath if I'm having lower back pain (started a few weeks ago) and leave my all of a sudden momma's girl to have some daddy time so I can have some relaxing time.

Yep! I don't see how you can't.

Yes. I was really bad at this for the first year of J's life, and my mom had a little intervention about the importance of not only time for myself, but also helping J learn to wait, entertain himself, etc. Now in the third tri, I'm making me time a big priority. If basic needs are met, I do what I want and he's generally still very happy

Yes, I do make time to put myself first. I also didn't make it a priority in the first 2 years of my son's life and we all suffered.

No. I really wish I could but I'm just not built that way. I get terrible anxiety around things not being perfect/finished/complete - mess makes me panicky - and my LO's crying/whining is a real trigger for me. I'm the same at work - I rarely get lunch etc. Its not good.

I totally do. A lot. Like, if LO is pooping but I'm in the middle of eating my dinner...I will totally finish my dinner before changing her. I figure 8 more minutes isn't going to kill her.

And the same goes for almost everything. Even in the newborn days, I wasn't one of those moms that didn't eat all day long or ever shower. My kitchen/living room are all together, so as long as I can see LO and I know she's fine....if she fusses while I make myself coffee and eat some cereal, I'm fine with it. I think EPing forced me to get used to a certain about of fussing while I couldn't do anything about it.

Yes. A lot more as she gets older.

Lately though it's more about teaching her that she's got to be more patient and less demanding. I give more "push back" for things like carrying the 12 toys that she wants to take in the car. I've also started putting more responsibility on my husband, more regularly.