Do you say "I love you" to your in-laws?
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Yes. Because I do!
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I don't feel like I know mine well enough to say that. I see them maybe one time a year sometimes every other year.
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No, that would be extremely weird! I feel like in my husband's family (maybe even his culture?) people don't really say I love you unless you are talking to someone you are in love with. My DH doesn't even really say it to our LOs that often (whereas I say it just about every day).
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No I don't...I guess sometimes I sign emails "love," but that's it. But, dh rarely says "i love you" to his parents either: in his family they just don't say it much to each other (like, his dad was just in the hospital and said it to my sil/his daughter, and my sil was shocked. this is a tangent, but how sad is that???)
on the flip side, in my family we say it all the time, but I don't think dh and my parents say it to each other, yet
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Of course. I do love them, and they treat me like their own. I'm lucky to have married into their family. We live across the country now, but we FaceTime once or twice a week and text regularly.
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no, but to be fair I don't really say it to my own family. not that I don't love my family, we just weren't raised as really affectionate people so..
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I'm not overly affectionate so I only say I love you if I truly deeply love someone. Like my husband, kids and parents.
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@sorrycharlie: Same. I only say "I love you" to my husband and my kids. It feels awkward saying it to anyone else, including my parents!
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Yes. Every time we leave each other or get off the phone, just like I do with my Mom.
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@Adira: my MIL constantly tells me she loves me and it's awkward
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I do – at least to my MIL because I genuinely love her!
I would also say it to my FIL for the same reasons. I don’t love my step-MIL and would actively avoid saying “I love you” to her, but depending on the context might respond with “you too”.
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Yes, because I do! I'm very close to my in-laws and I've been with DH since we were teenagers, so they truly have been a second set of parents to me.
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Yes, but I'm very close to them. They treat me like a daughter (I'm much, much closer to them than I am to my father and his wife)...I'm very lucky.
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@BandDmommy: I guess if someone said it to me, I might say it back... depends on how much more awkward it would be if I DIDN'T say it, haha.
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No but like some others have said, I don't really say it to people except my husband and son. My ILs are not very affectionate people anyhow.
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I would if I did.
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No, because I don't. I was wildly amused that my MIL said it to me after we announced this time. Baby vessel = loved one.
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@oliviaoblivia: hahaha same here
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes, I'm very much "loved" since I've provided a baby girl.
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It's just my MIL but no, we don't say it. Not because we don't care for each other (we do) she's a very private person. My family is different tho. My parents say it all the time and I tell my siblings here and there.
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I do, if they say it to me. They generally say "love ya" or "love you guys" and I say "we love you too", or something like that.
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To MIL for sure because I do really love her.
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Nope. My MIL says it and I either let Hubs say it back or I just kind of ignore it. It sounds mean, but to say it back would feel disingenuous.
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I do sometimes, but only because they say it to me. I never say it with my parents so it feels so weird to say it to DH's. But what am I supposed to say when they say "I love you"? It feels rude not to say it back. I don't always say it back. Only when I feel I have to.
I say it to DH every day though. I would say it to my parents if they said it to me. I have no issues saying I love you. It's just not something my parents taught me to do, so I never did with them and to start now, feels weird.
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No but I also don't really say I love you to my parents a lot haha. We're the stereotypical Asian families
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No. I don't love them. That sounds horribly mean but like @BandDmommy: I really don't know them. I don't say I love you to anyone other than my parents and my immediate family, though.
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Yes! I'm close to my MIL and she doesn't treat me like an inlaw. She treats me like her daughter. I'm grateful that we have a good relationship. I think it makes life easier.
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Yes but I'm close with them. I see them 3-4 times a week!
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No, because I don't.
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@BandDmommy: yes! My mil says it to me too and I never know how to respond.
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I am very close to my in laws and don't say it. But I'm not an affectionate person and don't even say it to my parents (I'm also not a hugger).
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Nope. They're not really affectionate people, but we do hug them good-bye, which is kind of like saying "I love you" for us!
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Only in response when my MIL tells me she loves me. I'm a very affectionate person so I would say it if I felt it.
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I have once in a while, but it's always been super awkward for me to get out. I normally let my husband respond (they don't typically address just me).
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To MIL/SIL, yes, because I do!
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no. But when they say it to me, it's always more of a "love to everyone" so I don't feel bad about it.
Love isn't a word I throw around. It took me awhile to say it to DH and I don't say it to my own family often (mayyybe once a year), so I'm not just going to say it every time we get off facetime.
edited to add: I'm not saying anyone who does say it just throws it around, it is an issue I have with myself.
I don't say it unless I really truly feel it.
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@MamaBehr: I'm same way. It takes a lot for me to say I love someone.
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My MIL will occasionally text or email it but typically says something like "hugs!" Personally, I would not initiate it but have occasionally responded "love you" back when it seems more awkward to not say it. I don't think she's ever said it to me in person, or its maybe just been directed to my husband and I as "we love you guys!" Seeing the various responses makes me feel better about it!
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@oliviaoblivia: haha I lol'd!
As for me, I don't usually drop the love bomb on the in-laws! I think I have twice: once on the wedding day, and again later when our first kid was born. But they are big on showing love through actions, not words.
I don't say it unless I really truly feel it.
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