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I hate lies, and when we were first dating and we were long distance for six months of it, we always said that the truth was the only thing between us.

That being said, I know we've both told little white lies over the last three years to protect each other and to keep secrets about presents, surprises, etc.

Never.

The only time I have ever lied to my husband was to keep a surprise, and I don't think that counts.

I used to lie a whole lot more when we were dating. I thought he would judge me for this or that. I lied by omission about how much debt I had, as well. We went through a really tough place for a while until I figured out WHY I was lying to him so much. Finally, I told him about my debt (well, he saw my open Dave Ramsey spreadsheet on our home computer) and it all came out.

We made it though, though and I've learned lying doesn't get me anywhere. I try not to lie to him about anything except for gifts now. It was a REALLY hard habit to break but I had to understand, he loves me for who I am and is a very understanding person. I can tell him stuff and...it'll be ok! I can tell him the truth and it'll be ok.

I totally agree with Mr.Bee that lies are just a slippery slope of no-good! I don't lie to DH for negative reasons. I have told white lies as a joke (just the other day ILs came over and fixed our disposal, they told me to play a joke on him and say that I fixed it while he was driving home from work...) or told the surprise lies as PPs have posted.

No.

My ex did that to me. I'd catch him in the stupidest lies. And then of course I'd say how am I supposed to believe the big stuff if you lie about stupid little things. Then I learned that he was lying to me about pretty much everything and that was the end of that.

I really hate lying too, but I won't lie here (haha) and admit that I have Level 3 lied to DH a few times. I wouldn't say they were really important things, but things that he would have been bothered by, which is why I lied. He has also lied to me on Level 3 about something that I found to be VERY important.