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My parents always did what we wanted to do But since there were 3 kids we still had to compromise.

I feel like we'll do a little of each. I've gone camping my whole life. If my kids hate it, I don't think I'm willing to stop. I also don't imagine that they'll hate it though. We'll do a lot of what they want to do too. I already told my hubby that Rose gets to pick the whole family's Halloween costume next year... even if that means we're a family of ballerinas

I think we do both. The LO has to tag along on errands but we also do many activities that are just for her. I think our parents did more of the kid just tags along thing. My mom is always commenting about the wonderful activities that we do with my LO but at the same time doesn't understand why I took her to a music class at 7 months. But I enjoy all these things, too, so I don't feel like I am doing it just for the LO.

The only things we didn't have a choice in as kids were church and food. But my mom was pretty good about limiting our choices in a way that she was comfortable with them but still allowing us to feel like it was our thing. For example, when I decorated my room as a kid she picked out three wallpapers and said, "These are the wallpapers they have for girls' rooms! Which do you want?" I didn't even know that there were a million other options, most of which my mom would have hated. So I guess my parents always controlled the situation but made us feel as if we ran the show... probably made us a little more self-centered but was easier on them!

I don't know how we'll turn out but I grew up adapting to my parents. We traveled a lot when I was little and we went out to dinner frequently and I had to learn how to behave in different situations/environments. I hope that our future children will be the same. I learned so much from my experiences that I hope to pass some of those on to our kids.