Hubs and I haven't even had our first LO yet (35 weeks now), but his parents are already making plans for our children without consulting us! Like BIG plans!

For example, my MIL has been badgering us to hurry up and have kids because she already has one grandchild and she wants to take all her grandchildren together on a cross-country excursion to visit a bunch of National Parks. She's mentioned this cross-country trip multiple times (before we got pregnant) and about how we needed to hurry and have kids so that all the grandchildren will be close in age for when she does this trip.

Then, more recently, when I was 20 weeks, My Step-MIL (SMIL) told me that her and her husband (Hubs' Dad) were going to take all the grandchildren to Disney World and how excited they were to do that!! I flat out told her no on that one - I was like "Uhh... that's something I think Hubs and I would like to do with our kids." Her response: "Well, I SUPPOSE parents can come, but that will change the whole dynamic..." I wanted to say "B----, you'll be lucky if I let YOU come!"

Is this normal for grandparents to want to do all the "fun" stuff with their grandchildren instead of the parents doing it?? I always thought fun trips like this (Disney World especially) were things that PARENTS did with their children! Why do my In-Laws think they can just kidnap my kids for big trips like this and we'll just be okay with it??

Have you had to deal with your parents or in-laws trying to do fun stuff with your kids without you? Especially things that YOU would want to do with your kids?? How do you tell them to back off without totally offending them?