My parents never gave us time outs..
I honestly don't know how I feel about them!
My parents never gave us time outs..
I honestly don't know how I feel about them!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
My parents never did either. They just spanked me! I don't believe in spanking, though.
I have given DD a few timeouts since she turned 2.
pomelo / 5321 posts
My parents didn't do timeouts either. I think we'll try using timeouts though.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Yes, I'll do timeouts. I already planned out where the timeout chair will be. HAHA - if this child is anything like me, we'll need it!!
cantaloupe / 6791 posts
Yes, from work I've seen that timeouts seem to work for a lot of kids (though definitely not all!). We plan to give it a shot when the time comes.
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
My parents didn't do time outs with me because I was usually too afraid. If I did get in trouble, I got spanked or something.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
Oh, yes. I've used them a few times on kids I've watched and it works like a charm. Three minutes having to sit on a stair is torture for a three-year old! Plus, if I remember my high school child care course, a timeout removes the child from the stimulus that is making them misbehave and then you can start fresh. Seems to work.
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
We never had them, but I'll be interested to see how the technique works with my LO.
pomelo / 5178 posts
Yes, we started time outs with DD at about 21 months (right after DS was born). We use the Super Nanny technique and it's been very effective!
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
Yes I will try this once she realizes that it's a punishment and can comprehend why we are doing it.
pomegranate / 3383 posts
We never had timeouts as kids but I will definitely do them a la Supernanny.
GOLD / papaya / 10206 posts
Yep, I sure will. We used to have to stand in the corner, I remember it was the corner of the dining room and it was awful. there is a running joke in my family because when my cousins came to visit and stay with us, my dad (it was his brothers sons) would say, "There are no corners at Uncle Tim's house" so they never had to be put in the corner while they were on vacation/visiting us. To this day (my cousin is now in his early 20's) he still jokes that there are no corners at my parents house!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
Timeouts are great. Sometimes Lala will do something wrong these days and will put herself into time out. The other day she was at a friend's house and I asked her not to throw the playdough. She looked at me, threw the playdough, got up, went to the corner and then announced to her friend, "I'm in time out because I threw the playdough and mama told me not to." Then she hopped up, said, "Sorry mama!" and went back to playing. Everyone in the room laughed and I was pleased to see that she knows when she is too worked up and gave herself the needed break.
cherry / 141 posts
I don't think that was a "thing" when I was a kid, so I got yelled at, sent to my room or spanked occasionally (overall I think I was a pretty good kid though).
My stepson gets time outs and it really helps to remove him from whatever the situation is and to talk it out after. If he keeps doing X that got in him trouble, then we'll take away toys, or now that he's old enough, he'll get grounded from certain activities. If we're visiting friends and he pushes it far enough too many times, we go home.
We'll definitely do the same with our LO.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I feel like every kid is different and responds differently to discipline. We'll just have to see what works best for my lo.
honeydew / 7504 posts
It's definitely a technique we plan to utilize. I don't recall being put in timeouts as a child, but then again I rarely misbehaved.
papaya / 10560 posts
I would TO first over spanking. I teach MS kids and kids can still get swats in Texas. I "sort of" use time out as a calm down/cool down procedure and I totally think it works. Usually, they just need a few minutes to settle down and think about what they did (just like LO's) and they are fine.
grapefruit / 4923 posts
my parents didn't use timeouts, but i was once a camp counselor and got very frustrated with one of the campers (he called me a bitch) and i asked him to sit in a timeout. i have to say, it gave us both the opportunity to calm down--i talked to him afterwards calmly and we both let it go. come to think of it, i could probably use some timeouts for myself when i start to get upset!
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: I used to do this too! One year at Thanksgiving I was being really annoying and swinging the doors between our kitchen and dining room. Dad told me if I touched the door again I was going in time out. So I totally tried to sneak one finger on the door behind my back. He busted me and sent me to time out. Well. When time out was over apparently I decided that if I was going to do the time I was going to really do the crime. So I went over and smacked the crap out of the door and then marched myself right back to time out. Dad said I looked him dead in the eye with an expression that said "that was totally worth it!".
I don't know how they dealt with my antics : )
pomelo / 5178 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: DD has started doing this, too! I figured part of it was her working through the process in order to understand what a time is/what it is for. We only do timeouts for "serious" offenses (in our house, that means hitting and doing something unsafe after being told not to). The other day DD got mad, hit the sofa, and put herself in timeout. Then, she went over, appologized to the sofa and called it, "poor honey." Lol!
pomegranate / 3053 posts
My parents did time outs in that we had to kneel facing a wall for a set amount of time. I remember my sister and I being in time out together and falling asleep and hitting our head against the wall. We also got spanked. Didn't like that and won't do it to our kids. I started time outs with my 3-year-old when he was 18-months in his pnp until he figured out how to stay in one spot. It works for us even if he's in his impossible 3s right now. It at least helps calm him down and reset.
coconut / 8299 posts
We haven't done time outs yet and he's 2 1/2! We will soon though cause he's starting to really act up.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
Timeouts don't work yet, my son doesn't get the concept that he has to sit somewhere for a designated amount of time, but we'll see as he gets older.
cantaloupe / 6751 posts
@Mrs. Jacks: Cute story!!
My parents didn't use time outs (they spanked). Not sure what we plan on doing, but we'll likely use time outs since we don't plan on spanking
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