but you don't have much of a relationship with them? My in-laws live a few miles away, but I wouldn't say we are close. I feel like I've tried to reach out, but my efforts are one sided. They don't take much of an interest in their grandkids lives, they don't talk to me outside of when we visit them, and they don't offer to babysit or help out with the kids unless we ask. Even when I had mastitis and felt like death, my MIL, who only works part-time, never offered to come by or check on me.

I've expressed my disappointment about our relationship to my DH who said I should stop trying, and I should accept that we are never going to be close. He said I should treat them like acquaintances and be civil, but nothing more. This is hard for me, because I feel like living so close to them should mean we have a good relationship, but I guess this is how they prefer things to be. Has anyone been in this situation? Any advice?