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When we go out, I'll double-check her diaper bag, pack extra clothes, make sure she has snacks and food, I have to tell him to change her diaper and give him the clothes she's going to wear that day. He takes 5 seconds to get ready and reading "news" online while I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to remember everything while I'm getting ready myself.

Next time we go somewhere, I'm just not going to do it. I'm gonna allow us to leave and see if he remembers what we need. But something tells me it's gonna backfire - it'll be the day she doesn't need any of it and he'll think I completely overpack. Sorry for the novel. End of rant.

Yes!! I feel like I do everything unless I ask him to check for diapers and wipes in the bag. Then he will do it but only if I ask so annoying.

Yes! It helps if I give him the choice of chores to do.

For example, for some reason it is assumed that I will drop LO off at daycare even though we leave at the same time and its the same distance for both of us. He also likes to give me grief for never getting gas in my car. So last night, I told him he either needed to go get gas in my car, or take LO to daycare in the morning so I could get gas.

We switch off. DH takes care of things like bills and paperwork, and I take care of making appointments and ordering stuff/shopping. When it comes to getting ready, he's just as likely to pack the diaper bag and get the kids ready as I am. We're pretty equal about childcare.

Our LO isn't here yet, but I see this already. DH used to be really on top of stuff when he worked in sales but since he changed careers and is a chef, he doesn't have the time to manage stuff. I took over our finances (and we're WAY better off for it). I've noticed lately that all travel plans, gifts for family, hotel reservations, DOG BOARDING, everything is on me. I think I'm going to pretend I didn't take care of our dog boarding for our trip in July and just be like "what? I was supposed to handle it? I thought YOU were!?" and then maybe see if he realizes how (@#*$&#*( lazy he is? I get that he doesn't have time to always do these things (he's either working or sleeping during the time of day that stuff usually happens!) but how about being aware or asking me if it's handled or how he can help. He just assumes I've got it. I'm interested to know how any of you break your hubbies of this... I'm honestly quite sick of it.

For sure, but I enable that behavior. I also assume he'll take care of certain non-baby things like our taxes, paying credit card bills, etc. I think it pretty much evens out!

@Alivoo01: It's even BEYOND that for me... for example, we have his brother's wedding this summer. He only found out the date to take off work (I ASSUME at least, I sometimes have to make him do that). No mention of how we'd afford tickets, no mention of where we'd stay, or our dogs, NOTHING. If I didn't handle it and didn't mention it (which he'd enjoy) he'd NEVER even think about it. He is just used to not having to do anything! If I do mention it ("Oh I booked the hotel for Steve's wedding." "How much?" "$150 plus tax" "(sucking in noise) That's steep." UMMMMMMMM I'M THE ONE WHO MANAGES FINANCES!?!?!) I need to play a big joke on him with it somehow. Just to open his eyes. His only focus is work and his garden.

Yeah. If I didn't plan things they wouldn't happen. From LO and her stuff, to gifts for his family, vacations, travel, everything.
I do all the research and then he says "ok" sometimes it doesn't bother me because it means I pretty much get to do what I want, but I would really like to have his input. And I HATE buying gifts for his mom.

We went to his mom's for Mother's Day and he made absolutely no arrangements and then got frustrated that we were leaving later than he wanted because I was packing for LO and then had to nurse her.

@kjpugs: Momma's boys I tell ya! Sad part is, if we DON'T do it ourselves, they're totally content with not having it done at all. Really????? haha.

Some stuff....like i do handle her dr appts and make sure we have the baby stuff we need (like i buy more bibs if we need them, make sure we have formula, etc) but if we're going somewhere, he'll pack his diaper bag and get the milk together, dress her, and stuff like that without expecting me to do it. He's good about checking in with me if things need to be done.

@kjpugs: LOL!!! That'd be hilarious. Watch his reaction be like, oh, guess we're not going then or we'll find a place when we get there.