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I put DS in everything at least once (even if it isn't my favorite). Family and friends spent their time and money thinking about the outfits.

I don't have this problem yet because my my mom has only bought clothes with me when we were together and MIL has only bought 1 sleeper and 1 vest thing so far. I think they all know I'm picky (not so much the brand but the look) and they aren't big into buying anything for baby anyways. But if I were your mother and MIL I would simply stop buying clothes for them. It just goes to waste. If I were you I would try not to get involved but it is pretty rude of your SILs and hurtful. But they should be more mindful and think of their MILs feelings. I would try to make a point of the wearing something at least once to show the grandmas too.

If its something that is only ok, I either use it as a daycare outfit or a daycare alternate outfit (stays in LOs cubby). I have taken a couple things back if I knew where it was from or had the receipt but I also don't send pics to the giver everytime so I figure they never know!

Ha ha. No. And now you have made me seem like a really bad person so I am going to go now and don my sack-cloth and hide under a rock somewhere. Does it count when the gifted clothes are thrifted or garage-sale purchases of Dale Jr. shirts and the like? Because I just *cannot* put that on my child. And it doesn't really seem to hurt MIL's feelings. If it was something special that she made, or seemed really set on one of my girls wearing I would do it once where she could see just for her benefit. But if it was something... awful... I might just burn it once we got home. Not if she made it, though. Gosh, I really think I am a bad person!

Yep, my kids wear every single outfit at least once. I'll be honest though, there are somedays that I'm like "if you're going to have a blow out, today is the day". HAHA!!

Only if everything else is dirty? My mom tries with mostly good results to factor in my taste but I have to admit that my MIL gifted things they never wore, or rarely. I encourage grammas to buy pajamas. All the fun of clothes shopping, and who cares about the style!

Should I feel more guilty about this?

Yeah, she'll wear everything. I was even gifted some 0-3 month Christmas patterned sleepers from someone (she's due any day now, so she'll be WAY out grown these by Christmas!) and I figure she can wear them on a day where we're not gonna go anywhere, or if it's laundry day.

What does the hand knit stuff look like? My mom gave me the most beautiful, crochet'd infant outfits that she'd saved since they were mine as a baby--- they are little gown/bonnet sets. And I *love* them, and will keep them forever, but I think they are too precious for a baby to actually wear! I mean, they are too hot for summer, too "open" knit for winter....but I would take a picture of my baby wearing them, maybe.

They are kind of like this: one in stark white and one in school bus yellow.

The part about only Gap clothes in strange, but I would stay out of it. It's kind of between the ladies and their MILs.

@Ree723: Very interesting question. My son is the first grandchild on both sides, and both sets of grandparents spoil him like crazy. I really appreciate how much time and thought has gone into their purchasing clothing for my boy, but in the beginning, it was definitely a situation where our tastes didn't match. I did put him in his gifted clothing because I knew it would make them happy. After, I had conversations with both sets about what kinds of things we prefer, and they've been better at picking things he will be more likely to wear.

As for croched/handmade...neither grandma knits, but my mom's friends gave us some hand knitted items. I put them on him for photos, and the friends were thrilled.

I think it's really rude too, especially if it's handmade. DD will always wear something once, a few times if it's handmade, and if it's handmade and dressy, I'll make it a point to have her wear it at 2 different social functions (even if it's not my style).

Nope. Some of the clothes we were gifted were age/season inappropriate and non-returnable, and I wasn't putting my three month old in a summer dress in the winter.

as long as they are season apporpriate and new, yes! Some family members gave us some used stuff from people they knew, and I didn't feel bad not using what I didnt like. I figure it's already been used by someone else, so it's not wasted and it didn't cost them anything!

Grandparents, yes. Other family members we dont see often....i'll return these.
I found out my aunt was asking about the clothes she bought LO as she hasnt seen them in a picture yet. They are size 12m! Baby is only 3m!

I do admit I have returned both Christmas gifts MIL bought. I despise plastic toys that make noises, but despit telling everyone that before LO was born, she keeps buying them. And they keep getting returned. No 3 month old needs a plastic "musical ipad". Well not mine, anyway.

My FIL asked if I would be offended if he bought the boys a onsie that said "Save the Tatas." I nicely said maybe that wasn't our style b/c I wouldn't have put them in that regardless of who have it to them. But generally, I someone gifts us am outfit, I plan on putting them in it at least once.

Nope (no guilt). I do keep all handmade items though.

Personally, I don't usually buy clothes for others b/c I don't think it's fair to put them in the spot of feeling like they need to like it or use it b/c I see them often. I wish others would do the same!

Luckily I don't have this problem as such - mil never ever buys anything for LO (but her grandson is spoilt rotten - but thats another vent) and my mum only ever buys clothes when I'm there with her so I get a say in the outfit and she pays. Mil snuck into LO's room one day and put in her collection of clothes that she kept from when her daughter was a baby - which I pulled out again because I was never going to dress Lo in any of that.

My LO is the first grandchild on both sides so to say she's spoiled is an understatement. Luckily, my mom has awesome taste in clothes and we usually shop together so I love almost everything she buys for LO. There have been a few things that are a little too frou-frou for my taste, but even if I don't love it, I always have LO wear it at least once b/c hey - my mom bought it with so much love. It's one thing if the clothes were old, tattered, ruined, gross, etc. - no way would I put my baby in clothes like that. But if it's something new and bought/made with love, then I have no problem having LO wear it at least once