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It depends. If I don't bring up any heavy topics she usually calms me down. My dad is my main calmer these days though. I always go to him when I'm upset.

Both. Just depends on the situation, which probably means its more me than her.

She usually stresses me out.

Both for me too. Small doses, helpful. Large doses, stressful. They're here for a week right now, because a new baby isn't stress enough?!

Stress, always. I go weeks without talking to her because whenever I do, I end up with a tension headache and the need to drink (and now that I'm pregnant, can't do that :p) She is passive-aggressive and I'm pretty sure bi-polar (my grandpa was and I have BPD, which is similar) and she just has these terrible mood swings where she will call and just be such a b****!

75/25 calms me down/stresses me out

the stress stems from me helping with their finances. the calming down is huge in her help with my life though.

Both.

My mom has always been the peace maker. My dad has always tended toward the agitator side but that's mainly because he's a Military brat me thinks. But when it comes down to it, I'm still daddy's little girl and if mom's unavailable, I call him for some relief from the storm.

My MIL, on the other hand... nails on a chalkboard. Same with my FIL.

Calms me down. Though she's a psychologist so it's kind of what she does.

She's crazy-calming. She's very laid-back and almost never gives her opinion or advice on something I am/am not doing unless I've specifically asked for it. The only time she's stressed me out was during labor, pre-epidural, on the way to the hospital. She kept telling me to breathe and I kept wanting to punch her...and DH...and every pothole in the road...but later when she did the same thing I needed it, lol.

Depends on the situation. When I'm trying to tell her a story she is THE WORST interupt-er ever! So I can never get through a story without getting interupted!! Ugh it's like she tries to guess what I'm about to say constantly! But if she knows I'm really upset by something and I need to vent she always lets me talk and get it all out. And she always takes my side (if I'm complaining about DH) Even if I know I'm probably in the wrong, and it makes me just feel so much better. Then I will normally go back to her after the outcome and say "You know I was wrong about x y and z" and she will always say "I know, but I knew you would figure it out"

Stresses me out, but since having LO its improved so much. Still we seem to have a 3 day limit - then it goes downhill pretty fast.

A little of both--- she nags about the silliest things... don't let LO get to close to the fireplace, it's hot. (Gee, thanks mom. I'm glad you pointed that out since I never would have known). But when $hit hits the fan, my mommy can calm me down.

It depends. She can be a real stress ball.

@autumnlove: I literally LOL'd at that. Sorry

Both! Really depends on the situation.

BOTH!

My mom usually stresses me out! But every once in a blue moon she'll be calming.

Stress! Stress! We are staying with my parents, fly home tomorrow, and I forget how much she stresses me until I'm here. The burning desire to give my LO food other than BM and the constant harassment about it, the toys she buys at garage sales and wants to give LO (I'm sorry- they skeeve me out), or worse- PUT TOYS IN THE CRIB WITH HER!!! Someone held H yesterday with perfume or something on and caused her to get a little breakout/rash on her cheek and I busted my mom trying to put Neosporin on her face.

I always envisioned I'd be able to hand H over to my mom and be able to go do other stuff with no worries, but it's the opposite. I stress when mom's hands are on her and so I have to hover so I watch them like a hawk!