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I'm extremely sensitive about any comments about my weight. My family has never said anything to me growing up or now, but DH has a few times and it has been a HUGE source of contention between us to the point of us having to go to couples counseling for it (among a few other issues).

What What What? That stinks! I'm so sorry, and I would have been angry, too.

The only time my family comments on my weight is when they think I am too thin. And they haven't made any comments about my weight during my pregnancy because nobody has seen me yet (I will be 27 weeks this week). I am supposed to see my in-laws in a couple of weeks, so, we'll see how that goes. But I do know that *everyone* expects me to snap right back into shape because of what I looked like pre-pg. We have a large family event 1 month after I deliver, and I am already sweating the comments about whether I have not lost enough or lost too much . . . it stresses me out almost more than thinking about labor!

My mom made a couple of comments about my body when I was a kid that I will never forget. They weren't negative comments per se, but they did cause me to obsess about certain parts of my body, and I still do, no matter how small I am.

My mom constantly tells me how much harder I should be trying to lose my pregnancy weight (still holding onto 15-17lbs). She says I was "sooo pretty" when I was thinner.

It makes me sad because I struggled with my weight my whole life and I've had such a hard time losing weight. My mom doesn't say it to be mean, she thinks she's being encouraging.

They don't make negative comments about it, but they always ask about it.
My MIL is very concerned about looks and appearances, and she used to ask me after every single doctor appointment (when i was pregnant) how much weight I had gained. As soon as i had the baby, she started asking how much i had lost. Every time I see her she asks if she can see my stomach (I always say no). When I was pregnant, she also used to ask to see my stretch marks, and then brag about how she never got them.

@MrsDaredevil: That's outrageous!!! Boooooooo to ridiculous requests and innapropriate questions/comments! I mean, seriously? WTH is wrong with people?!?!

@Mrsdaredevil: It seems like people like that have way worse issues with their own body/food/exercise than we do.

@Mrsdaredevil: Holy cow! That's awful!
My mom used to bug me about my weight a lot. She stopped when I started coming to her crying because I couldn't slow my pregnancy weight gain. I'm a little nervous that I won't be able to lose the "extra" 20 pounds more than they wanted me to gain. (I gained 44, they said to gain 25, I now have lost 25 and have 19 pounds to go--the same 19 pounds they didn't want me to gain in the first place).
She might start bugging me about my weight again, but I think she'll give me 2 months pp before she does (she better!!).

@Mrsdaredevil: oh my. I'm sorry you have to deal with that!
@autumnlove: Agh, how frustrating! Have you told her how her comments hurt you?

My FIL told me I looked like I was fattening the both of us (hubs and me) up once when we were dating. I started crying at the dinner table. Awkward! He never mentioned my weight again but he loves to harp on my husband about his. Makes me so mad. Just because you have never had a problem with weight does not give you the right to tell your son he needs to lose weight!

when i was pregnant the first question my DAD would ask me after my appointments was, 'how much weight did you gain?'. it was really frustrating. did i want to gain 40 pounds during pregnancy? no. but that's what it did...so lay off of me. i lost 30 pounds within the first 3 weeks pp, so no one has really said anything...but i'm waiting for it. my family has never been one to shy away from telling you if you look like you've gained a few pounds or if you look 'so good since you lost some weight' which doesn't help either. DH is always really good about my weight, and doesn't say anything negative, just encourages me if he knows it's bothering me and i want to do something about it. i've always had issues with my weight...i was a pretty chunky kid(along with my brothers) and it's something that i constantly think about. and the comments to stay with you...my dad told my brothers and i once that he didn't want fat children....thanks dad!

My dad made comments about how I need to head back to the gym six weeks after I had my daughter. I was not amused.

ditto @chopsuey119. thankfully i've never had any comments from my parents or extended family. the only time they said something was when i had lost a good 15-20 pounds unexpectedly post-college due to some medical issues at the time. and they were supportive about it.

it's either way tho, i don't think one's weight is something that others should talk about in judgemental fashion regardless of under/overweight being the issue.

i've had people tell me taht i'm starving myself too thin and that i need to eat something fattening, etc. on/off all my life and it's really discouraging because i've never had issues with eating/working out/etc.

That's awful! My mom knows better. My grandma would make comments to me when I was pregnant and my mom knew how much that upset me. I made her talk to my grandma about it because it got to the point where I was ready to not visit anymore, and then my grandma stopped saying things. She would tell me flat out lies like "You look good today!" and "You look like you're losing weight!" after the baby came instead. I was ok with the lies

My mom does give me magazines and articles on losing weight though. So she says it, she just doesn't say it outloud.