Can anyone explain the logistics of how they asked for and started divorce process? Especially if did not move out?
Bonus points if you did this while still very much wishing you stay married/loving spouse.
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I think @portboston: did this and @autumnmama79: hopefully they see this and can offer advice. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this
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I just flat out told my husband I wanted to leave/get a divorce. I wasn't able to move out right away so I moved into the spare bedroom for about month until I got my own place.
The actual legal divorce took a while. I moved out in June and our divorce was just finalized two weeks ago. Everything was very amicable though.
If you have any specific questions I'm happy to help!
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@runnerd: No advice, I just wanted to offer hugs and support.
Is your SO opposed to counseling?
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@runnerd: I’m sorry you’re in this position. DD’s dad and I divorced 8 years ago. Once I announced that I was tired of the crap and wanted a divorce it was a bit of a whirlwind. We attended some fledgling counseling sessions but ultimately it was already over. We stayed living in the same house for a year. To save money and as a bit of transition for DD. That living arrangement only worked bc there was little to no conflict between us. He slept on the couch if I remember correctly.
Where I live, you need to be separated for a year prior to filing for divorce. It was very important to agree on a ‘separation date’. I handled the actual divorce 100% on my own, following ministry guidelines and filing the required documents at the courthouse. We we’re able to settle parenting time and child support through this self directed process as well.
Again, I’m so sorry. I think we were in the same 2016 due date group? Sending you love and strength. Do you have any other questions or thoughts?
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I'm not divorced but I am a divorce lawyer. People do all sorts of things - stay living in the same house, move out, nesting arrangements, etc. They also do all sorts of types of divorce - joint petitions, no fault divorces, fault divorces. Nasty divorces and amicable ones. Each case is unique and has variables. States also vary - as @autumnmama79 said, some states require physical separation, others (like where I live) don't care. Some states have fault laws and others don't. I'm happy to chat more if you need any advice or recommendations. Good luck!
Is your SO opposed to counseling?
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