DD is 2 in a few weeks I think my family has watched her/baby sat her 4 times since she was born! They never ask and when asked are always busy
I am not irritated by that but my mom is very one sided to a lot of things and seems to be the biggest issue

Her idea of helping me is on her time and when she wants to..
Ex: I can ask her to watch DD and she will agree but then come over complaining of a bad back and we come back because she has something to do?!?!

Also she is very over dramatic and says things like her brain is fried..getting..old can't remember shit

Will say she hears voices telling her to just move away

That all my husbands hears too
So much more I could add but I will stop there

She asked to take DD to a carnival 2 hrs away
I declined saying I am not ready for her to go that far with out me
She said I am being crazy and holding her back from joy with her grandma

I told her can we take it step by step you rarely watch her have never driven anywhere with her maybe start taking her places around town like children museums in which she stated I hate that place........drive her to the beach.....something

She says I am ridiculous ....problem is if I told her the truth and how her comments and lack of listening to me makes me nervous
She would call me crazy and say she never does these things?!?!

What do I do?
DH and I hear her say Ohhh my brain took me to where we lived 15 yrs ago driving I am so tired these days I passed up my development.....then we are supposed to say Ok mum take my DD on a road trip!?!?!