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@mrskansas: I suppose

@snarkybiochemist: Thanks I'm doing ok. I feel like emotionally I'm processing it all. Our doctor thinks the most likely scenario is that it was a genetically healthy embryo that had its supply of nutrients cut off by a clot from the SCH. The heart beat for a full month after it lost its connection to my nutrients, using the nutrients in the yolk sac, but there's not enough there to grow or thrive, and meanwhile my body was spending a ton of energy building the placenta but the nutrients couldn't get across. Bleeding during pregnancy is really common, and I think for us it just happened in exactly the wrong place at the wrong time. I feel like it's sort of a metaphor for life - you can do everything right, but in the end a lot of things come down to luck. And obviously it could be much worse. This is why I think compassion is so important. I hope that this experience reminds me to really enjoy the good moments when they finally come, as nothing is guaranteed and I know there are much worse heartaches that parenthood can and often does bring.

I think it's a little bit of a silver lining that it takes time to recover after a D&E, because right now the thought of being pregnant again just brings up dread. I could handle another loss or string of BFNs - we really do want kids and understand that comes with a price - but I would hate to have to relive this particular loss. There are no known risk factors for the type of SCH I had, and thus nothing to do to feel like I'm making it less likely.

@periwinklebee: Good I am glad you are able to process things and handle it emotionally. It sounds like your doctor was able to give you reassuring information. How long is the wait after a D&E?

@snarkybiochemist: I think it just depends on the person. The lining takes some time to recover since it gets scraped off - usually at least a full cycle - and most people won't ovulate in the first cycle afterwards, which can be long, because HCG is too high. We will just play it by ear and hopefully be back in the TTC game by April or May.

@mrskansas: Thanks I guess one good thing is it's on a Friday and President's day weekend is afterwards.

@periwinklebee: That's nice to have some extra time. I had three days off after my surgery & it was definitely needed to recover.

@mrskansas: 12 days i think. But I am using WONDFOs.

ETA i think I got a negative the day of my period with my son and didnt get positive till the day after! Don't remember exactly but it was something like that.

@mrskansas: I hope so! Fingers crossed, for you and me!

@junebugsmama: yes good luck mama!

@azjax: thanks at this point I've accepted its not my month and so I just want my period to start so I can move on to the next round

@mrskansas: I wish we had off presidents day

@mrskansas: Totally worth getting excited about. I was really excited for my snow day last week. We all need breaks from work sometimes

@mrskansas: I get a pretty decent amount and a lot of leeway about when I take it and how much notice I give and I still try to avoid taking too much

@periwinklebee: Thanks, it just prolongs the waiting and is miserable

@azjax: thank you!

I've never had any PMS symptoms in the 10ish years I've had my period (don't hate me) so I'm really curious about other's experiences. Can we do a little poll?

-How many days before AF do you see symptoms?
-What are they?
-Do you get variations month to month or are they consistent?

@mrskansas: I don't know that I tend to get pms symptoms, for me when I had period related symptoms it was just horrible cramps and that didn't start until the same time as my period started. Usually a few hours after actually.

@mrskansas: ok I drop my son off in 30 min at his school and there is dollar store right by there!

@mrskansas: typically, I get horrible cramps 1-2 days before with some bloating and a pimple or two shows up around the same time. On a more variable basis, I get full/sore boobs and more emotional.

I started feeling bad at work today and I officially have body aches, chills and a 100 degree fever. I can't believe I'm sick again!
Hopefully this doesn't hurt anything since I'm only 4/5 dpo

@junebugsmama: I took Tylenol and got it down to 98.6! Whew. I feel like I've been sick for the past two months. Luckily my LO hasn't been sick nearly as much!