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I hope it's not too annoying to respond one at a time like this. It's so much easier for me since I usually hb on my phone. Otherwise I try to put it all in one and accidentally delete it before I am done, with 5 responses that get eaten and just give up.

@periwinklebee: that's a lot of blood to draw! I hope you feel better soon and don't have to wait for the D&C for some symptom relief.

@snarkybiochemist: I'm sorry- but am so glad you enjoyed the dinner. Any chance you'd test just to confirm/surprise yourself?

And thank you all, last night was just what I didn't know I needed! The movie was terrible of course but fun- especially after a glass of wine! We came home and the boys were in bed so got to binge watch parks and rec w DH until we all went to bed. Perfection.

Hopefully I can carry the happiness into the tww as I'm 3 DPO now and that's when the craziness hits

Thanks guys. I'm hoping things will be better after Friday. I just slept eleven hours straight - which is insane and something I never, ever do - but I'm glad that I could and hopefully it will help in feeling better today.

@junebugsmama:

@snarkybiochemist: I'm sorry about the spotting

@knittylady: That sounds like so much fun!

@SugarMaple: I have a 2.5 yo also. He will be 3 in April. I always imagined we would have two kids close together too but like you said, life had other ideas!

@SugarMaple: @jhd: We also have a 2 year old, she'll be 3 on Halloween. How did all this time pass??

@Mrs.Panda: Agreed. My 35th birthday is fast approaching as well. I feel like I need to push the brakes!

@periwinklebee: I'm sorry this has been such a ride for you. I hope you're not feeling as exhausted today and for the rest of the week

@bhbee: that's what wondfos are for!

@snarkybiochemist: sorry about the spotting is this typical for you before AF shows up?

@SugarMaple: I love 3 year olds! They are always my favorite patients at work, aside from the super adorable CALM babies who come in.

On another random note, my cousin has 2 little girls (4 and 2) that he takes out to dinner every year for Valentine's Day. He posted a picture last night and I just melted. I want a girl for our first, just so I can see how much DH will be wrapped around her finger. And because it's the only name we have picked out.

@SugarMaple: @madisonbee: Thank you

I'll be 34 in a little over a month. I was hoping to have my first by 35, and if we'd gotten pregnant right away I would have had the first by around the time I turned 34, but at this point I think it'll be pretty lucky if we manage to have the first by 35. I hope what they say about things not really going down hill until closer to 40 is true for us...

@periwinklebee: I've been surprised at how many of my 35-45 y/o friends are having their first child--with no problems. One of them had their first through IVF, but then 2 years later had another one completely natural. Another found out on her 40th birthday--she was an oops baby (she was told she couldn't get pregnant based on how her uterus and tubes looked), but still very much wanted and very healthy!

@periwinklebee: When I wasn't ready for a baby, the ones at work helped fill my need to hold one and give them back. Then I got hit with the baby flu and now I wanna just hold them all day long and imagine myself being a mom to each baby, like "how would I handle this one?" It's the worst when it's a baby with unfit parents or under investigation by CPS for abuse and it's like, "why does this person get to have a baby but ones who want one and would take care of one can't?!"

@bizwitch: I admire you. I think it's great you have a plan to be a parent one way or another. I am worried that if we don't get pregnant (naturally or one round of IVF--which is what we can "afford"), I won't get to be a mom. DH does not want to foster or adopt for reasons I completely respect.

@bizwitch: you too, lady! I'll be doing a big dance for you when you do!

@madisonbee: typically I spot the day before my period.
I will likely be having a transvaginal ultrasound on valentines day aren't I lucky

@bizwitch: I try not to think about multiple kids - too much to worry about. Right now I just want one, then we can worry about what next. I have always wanted more than one, but can only handle taking things one step at a time.

@madisonbee: I've read too many old HB infertility threads, and was surprised by the number of people who were ovulating fine but nevertheless had luck with clomid, which is also a lot less pricey than IVF. I bet though that you have a really good shot of getting KU without any of these interventions

I'm less intimidated by treatments than I used to be. After having gotten the better part of the way through the first trimester, I feel like I've put so much into TTC already, that whatever, I'll do whatever, I just want to eventually have a baby. I think short of finding any specific problems in the mean time, we'll probably try for another six cycles or so before going that route.

@madisonbee: It's crazy that reproduction happens, with all the things that have to go right!

@snarkybiochemist: I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@snarkybiochemist: Off and on spotting right before AF sucks.

You all, I know I complain a lot lately, but one more complaint. I've been periodically passing tiny clots from the SCH for quite awhile. It is driving me crazy, though, because if it happens to occur at a time when symptoms seem to be ebbing, I wonder if I could be starting to miscarry naturally, then nothing. I know I should just assume I'm not, but when clots come out and you know your embryo is dying or dead, it's hard for the mind not to go there. I've also been having weird cramps for a few weeks, though they feel more like stretching than menstrual cramps.

I'm sure the majority of this board is so ready not to have random stuff coming out down there, that's not EWCM or AF!

@periwinklebee: I would be questioning everything too just wondering. Hopefully this week goes quickly for you.
I am so ready to not have spotting or my period and I absolutely cannot wait to not have to pay attention to ovulation and my fertile period.

I am extra cranky right now about all of this. But we did settle on a plan for the future, just medicated cycles with timed intercourse until May and then moving on to IUI. My husband is really uncomfortable with the money involved in IVF and would rather put the money towards adoption. I'm not sure I'm ready to give up biological children, but I want a child more I think