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Did not BD last night because I wasn't feeling well. Slightly nauseous with a headache. Kind of felt like I was hungover even though I haven't had a drink since last weekend.
I just couldn't force myself when I'm not feeling good. What do you guys do when O falls around a time when you're not feeling well?
We BD'd the day before a positive OPK and the day after. I guess that would be O-2 and O? Will go again tonight or tomorrow.
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Also, this puts me at the beginning of my TWW. Time to lose my mind!!! LOL
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@bizwitch: I'm sorry that's the worst (although it sounds like you still covered it pretty well if you only missed one day!)
This last time we just couldnt make ourselves do it the last day, we were so tired. So if it's just one day I skip it. But I've definitely been known to just encourage a quickie when we "should" but I don't feel into it for whatever reason. Honestly I consider it a huge bonus if we are both actually into ttc bd! -
@bhbee: I am a little surprised we got it in this morning. DH is taking a motorcycle class that he had to leave for at 8:30, so we had to basically set an alarm to BD on a Saturday! No bueno. Luckily I went to bed embarrassingly early.
Sometimes I worry we are not trying as hard as we should with the BD. We've tried like every combination of days leading up to O, O and afterwards, and so far nothing has worked. But we've never done every day for like 5 days. I just don't have the energy for that anymore!
Sometimes TTC feels like a damned Rube-Goldberg machine, where a complicated series of events has to line up in a specific way in order to achieve the desire outcome. And yet it is supposed to be the most natural thing in the world. It is literally why humans even exist at all.
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@snarkybiochemist: enjoy your dinner tonight!!!!
@junebugsmama: cramping is the worst. It freaks me out and is not diagnostic either way in the absence of menstual flow or something. If you don't usually have a short LP, don't worry! I notice I get more random cramps when I am dehydrated, so if cramping goes away after a few glasses of water I try not to worry.
@bizwitch: with as yucky as you were feeling, not BDing is totally understandable! For the cycles that I have conceived, I hit either O-2 and/or O-1 along with O. I think those days are your best chance!!!
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@bizwitch: oh, and I wanted to say that you can't be a slave to baby-making sex! Just focusing on carpet bombing during my suspected fertile window took a lot out of DH and I, and it was important to connect later wih some purely "recreational" sex so DH didn't feel like all I wanted from him was a data transfer.
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@azjax: haha "data transfer" that made me literally LOL
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@azjax: Thank you
@bizwitch: There's so many reasons why TTC sex is not always the greatest. Sometimes it does force me to take time to DTD when I don't think I'm in the mood, and it ends up being nice... Sometimes, I'm just glad we managed to get it in and not lose an opportunity.
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@azjax: thanks I'm really looking forward to it
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@bizwitch: yes! It's so frustrating to have to plan out BDing especially when you're trying to keep things sexy. But TTC ain't sexy, no way, no how.
I'm so jealous of the people who just spontaneously get pregnant. Like, wtf.
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@Mrs.Panda: I am super jealous of people who don't have to think about fertile windows or opks or anything else to make a baby. I knew going into TTC that we would need to pay attention and plan so we never even had any ntnp cycles.
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@Mrs.Panda: @snarkybiochemist: A current point of worry is that we'll miss BD the one cycle I actually have a good egg, not improbable given that I do travel some for work. I don't know why things haven't happened more quickly for us, but egg quality seems like the most typical explanation, and if that's true it's just a matter of waiting for a good one. I'm over the hassle of worrying about timing, but at my age don't feel like a more chill approach would actually make me more relaxed since the clock is ticking...
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@bizwitch: I think your timing sounds good. Good luck with this TWW!
@azjax: lol at "data transfer" I have been making an effort to make sure we get some fun BD in at the beginning or end of the cycle too so DH doesn't feel like I'm only interested in TTC sex.
@Mrs.Panda: @snarkybiochemist: so insanely jealous of the people who don't even have to think about it and it just happens. one of my cousins announced #3 on FB this week and my first reaction was just to feel jealous and sad. i hate it and feel like a terrible person for not just being happy for her, but it is what it is.
@snarkybiochemist: tonight's your fancy V-day meal! i hope you enjoy the time with your DH. i'm living vicariously because we aren't fancy and just do homemade pizza. this year i'm being lazy and even got store bought crust!
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@bizwitch: Girl, sounds like you're covered! Good luck in your TWW
@snarkybiochemist: Agreed; I feel like ignorance is bliss with TTC. Nonetheless, hope you have an amazing dinner! Drooling just thinking of it
@azjax: data transfer! hahahaha!
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@snarkybiochemist: I hope you have a good dinner!
@jhd: Homemade pizza sounds fun!
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@jhd: Facebook announcements are the worst and I try to remind myself that I don't know their story and it could have been a hard road for them but I get so jealous and sad that it isn't me. Also I am only this fancy 4 times a year, valentines our anniversary (wedding and dating) and his birthday
@jhd: @madisonbee: @periwinklebee: I am looking forward to a night of focusing on my husband and our relationship (and good food and wine). I hope everyone has a nice weekend -
@snarkybiochemist: Amen, sister.
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I've been peaking in on hellobee since the birth of my first child. We have been TTC #2 for about a year, I'm crossing my fingers that joining the TTC board will be good luck!
Cycle Day:
TTC Cycle: I don't have a count. We have been trying for a year, but I have had two miscarriages in that time frame.
Ovulation Date: 2/11/17
POAS Date: 2/25/17
Baby #: 2
For Fun: Do you and your partner celebrate Valentine's day? Any plans? No big plans this year!
Good luck to all you ladies! I have been routing for you! -
@SugarMaple: welcome!!
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@SugarMaple: welcome!!
My very best friend who lives two hours away came to visit this weekend and an hour or so ago DH told us to leave the house and have fun. We're having happy hour wine and will go see 50shades. I'm so happy, this is so what I needed.
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@knittylady: enjoy yourself! You so deserve it!
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@knittylady: that's awesome! Hope you have a great night!
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My fancy pants dinner was awesome and well worth not testing for. Now to decide if I test tomorrow or wait until my period is late.
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@SugarMaple: Welcome! I'm sorry for your losses
I really hope you get your rainbow baby soon. @knittylady: That sounds amazing!
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@snarkybiochemist: so glad you enjoyed your dinner. and you are right on with how we don't always know everyone's story. i love keeping in touch with people using facebook, but most people (myself included) tend to only share the best parts of our lives there and you don't have the whole picture. in the case of my cousin i just assume that since they have had three kids in the last 4 years that TTC hasn't been hard for them. but we don't get to pick what will be hard and easy for us in life and i'm sure they have experienced other difficult things that we haven't. sorry for the ramble. it helps me to talk through these feelings with someone besides DH!
@knittylady: YAY!! i'm so glad you get to have a night out with your friend. enjoy!!
@SugarMaple: welcome! i'm sorry for your losses. good luck this cycle!
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@jhd: I'm sorry
I think it's not so much about other people, really, but just a trigger that brings up emotions and raw pain about our own TTC disappointments and worries. I really hope things work out for you soon
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@SugarMaple: welcome and
!@jhd: I just don't even FB anymore, after realizing it was making me fairly miserable and irritated.
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@periwinklebee: thanks
@azjax: It is definitely something I have considered!
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You guys, I feel so, so exhausted, despite spending so much of the weekend sleeping. They took four tubes of blood yesterday - no idea why they needed four more - I wonder if that could be contributing. I also kind of wonder if I should go to my PCP and get a blood draw to test for anemia. I've been needing a ton of sleep in general and know its a normal pregnancy thing, but it seems to be getting worse and worse when if anything my levels should be dropping or at least rising more slowly...
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@periwinklebee: I'm sorry. This has just been a nightmare time for you. I wouldn't hesitate to see your PCP. If nothing else it would give you peace of mind to be checked.
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@periwinklebee: I felt like that when I was going through my miscarriage. I think it was more mental than physical but it was rough.
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@snarkybiochemist: happy to hear that you had a great dinner!
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@knittylady: that's awesome! How was the movie? I really want to see it
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@knittylady: awesome!! That's a nice surprise
@SugarMaple: welcome! How old is #1?
@periwinklebee: yes, so much pressure... I hate the idea that there is really only a brief period of time that we can conceive. Every. Single. Month. Or in my case, every month and a half, almost.
I'm afraid that last cycle I put a lot of pressure on DH to BD. I'm really hoping that I can turn the crazy down this time around.
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I am gonna fess up. I said I wasn't gonna test until after I get back from 2 days out of town when my period is due, but instead I've been testing like crazy for a few days already! It's my first month having wondfos and I am just going to town poas! All stark white so far, but I am still enjoying it a little bit since it's early. Probably gonna start getting a bit discouraged as it approaches the true day but, oh well!
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@knittylady: much deserved! Hope you enjoyed
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@periwinklebee: they may have already tested for it. Ask your ob if they did a CBC. Looking forward to when this is all behind you, friend.
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@jhd: I agree, it's so tough even if you can remind yourself you are just seeing the glimpse of the good stuff. I have this one Facebook friend who irritates the heck out of me because she always posts sarcastic sort of things related to being pregnant and motherhood in general. I am actually not a big fan of the perfect pregnancy announcement, it's a bit cutesy and cheesy to me (only when I apply it to myself, nothing against anyone here who has Or plans to!!), but I feel like her sarcastic posts are so over the top it's not even funny. Like a post comparing her to Beyoncé but trying to say how non glamorous she is and how little she tries... Or an announcement she did where she literally googled a random person's announcement and messily crossed out the names and put in her family's in paint or whatever. Just not humorous to me at all, why post anything??
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@snarkybiochemist: yay! So glad you enjoyed yourselves.
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@bizwitch: everyday for 5 days would be literally impossible for us. Lol. Good luck on the tww!
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