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First of all, let me wish you a very happy and blessed mother's day. Sounds like you have a perfect storm going on right now. Even if no one else acknowledges this day for you, treat yourself to a mother's day. Get yourself a coffee, take a bubble bath, read that book you've been dying to read, take a walk.
Last year was rough for me because I had just lost a pregnancy and wished the day away. So I understand.
As for your husband, he just has to get on board. You asked your parents for a favor and they said "no." That's that. You can't force someone to loan you money.
I will be honest and say you are probably taking things a bit personally but you are pregnant and these hormones are nuts.
Be kind to yourself and give everyone else a pass today.

I don't think you are being too irrational. You can't really help how you feel, and you're not letting it negatively effect your behavior so don't beat yourself up. Maybe your mom will say something once you're at her house, and your husband might get around to saying something later. I'm actually due today and my husband didn't plan on doing anything for me unless the baby was already here. I think some people just don't think of pregnant women as moms, and it isn't really meant to offend.

If your day ends up really disappointing, you should treat yourself to something to make up for it. I'm buying a new (too expensive) lipstick today from Sephora that I'll wear for new baby pictures when she comes.

Edit: just saw your update about the card and I totally might steal it. So cute!

Sorry you are having a rough day! First off, your feelings are totally valid, no matter whether they are hormonally induced or not. What people (and especially men) don't seem to realize is that from the moment we first get that BFP, many women do already feel like moms. I know I did, and I was constantly reframing everything I did with a thought to how I would do or celebrate x, y, or z with baby next year.

My LO is 5 weeks old today, so this is all fresh in my mind. I wished a friend, who is 6 mos pregnant with her first, a happy Mother's Day today, and I want to wish you one, too! As PP have said, treat yourself today (you are already a momma), give your family a pass (they don't quite realize how you feel), and think of next year's Mother's Day (when you will have your LO in your arms and EVERYONE is calling to wish you a happy first (but really second!) Mother's Day!

I think your feelings are valid. I think we all have certain expectations.

Hugs to you and Happy Mother's Day!

I am curious to know how many of us got acknowlegded on Mother's Day while we are pregnant. I just created a thread on it.

Happy Mother's Day to you! And congratulations. I am glad you celebrated yourself.

Having said that, I don't want to be a Debbie Downer but even though I had a lovely day today, I have had to waaaay dial down my expectations for Mother's Day ever since I was pregnant and even after my kids were born. So I guess my advice is to lower your expectations and/or be very clear with your husband. (My husband honestly thought it was OK for him not to do anything for me the first Mother's Day AFTER my first child was born. "You're not my mother," he said.) After that he straightened up but really, it's just a day, a nice day to go out to eat or something, but kids take years to figure out what it's about, you have to share the day with every other mom out there, etc. I dunno -- I have been happier since getting all that straight in my head.

@mamimami: I agree with you about having expectations lowered. I think I always expect too much, because I hear about other husbands doing breakfast in bed or writing a heartfelt card. My husband isn't super romantic, but I know he cares. I can't expect him to be something he isn't.

@HourThyme: I do agree with you though that I would expect at least people to acknowledge me on mother's day as a pregnant lady. I would probably feel bummed too.

First of all, Happy mother's day to you.

I think it is probably hormonal, as it is indeed.... a tad bit irrational to me if you were down because your husband didn't do anything special on Mother's day when you are 11 weeks pregnant.... Sorry.... but that's just the way I see it.

For me, after being a mother for 3 years for a 3+ year toddler son, I still don't expect much from anyone on mother's day. I don't think I would care much if my husband would actually be traveling for work on mother's day. Yes it would be nice if someone did something, but it is not a must. I wouldn't over think over it. We should remind ourselves that we are indeed very very lucky that we are even fortunate enough to be a mother while many women don't even have the opportunity at all even though they really wanted to.

I do understand, however, that you are feeling crappy with everything that happens around it though. With the hormones at first trimester I understand why you are feeling that way. I wish you well, and have a real Mother's day celebration the same time next year!

Happy belated Mother's Day!!

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy belated Mother's Day to you! I think that you have a right to feel the way that you do. It sounds as if you have a lot going on right now, and there's a lack in appreciation for all you do for others. I think doing something for yourself is a great idea, even if it's treating yourself to a pedicure this week!

I've had a few losses, with my very first pregnancy announced on Mother's day 5 years ago. We lost that pregnancy a few weeks later, and I'm still sensitive about Mother's Day. No one but DH knows that, and I know that I can't expect them to. My BIL always makes a joke about us announcing on Mother's day, and it bothers me to this day....5 years and 6 pregnancies later. But I can't necessarily expect him to know that it bothers me unless I say something. If you feel like you would feel better by just mentioning it, then it wouldn't hurt. Otherwise, I think just treating yourself to something nice is great