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1. We went with the suggested checks, but modified them when we had to retrain. Our typical checks were at 10-12-15 minutes
2. If she wasn't crying, we left her alone
3. No advice, because we didn't have a paci.
5. Though we didn't get there, our limit was 1.5 hours.
6. It took maybe 4 nights until we were down to 1 check/no checks.

Good luck!!

1) We tried checks, but they made things worse. I honestly believe that checks are more for the parent's peace of mind than the baby's. Once we stopped checking, things progressed much faster.

2)Don't do it! Get a video monitor if you have to, but DO NOT GO IN. Be strong. I say this in large part because your presence can make the baby go from a wakefulness scale of 3 to 8. Think about it in terms of you going to sleep. Imagine you were lying in bed by yourself, trying to get to sleep, and just as you were in the twilight stage between being fully awake and asleep, your DH opened the door and came to stand by your bedside and stare at you.

3) Yep, only during checks.

4) I'd wait. Honestly, I think by going in to "just" replace her paci might be making her more wakeful because again, you're coming into the room and interacting with her.

5) We didn't set a limit. But for what it's worth, the most she cried was about two hours (on the first night). 1.5 hours the next night. 10 minutes the next. Now she usually doesn't cry at all (she's 8 months). Sometimes she'll fuss for a few minutes, kick her legs or play with her toys. But she's usually asleep in under 15 minutes every.single.time.

6) N/A since we decided checks weren't for us. I would say that she was completely sleep trained within a week, although we did have some more fussiness around the 4 month regression (which didn't undo our training, just meant a little more fussing than usual with some exceptional nights where she would full-on cry it out).

1. We went at 7, 10, and 12 minutes. Don't know why we chose such random numbers! I went into sleep training fully intending to do extinction CIO, but we decided to try Ferber the first night and see how it went.

2. For us, we didn't unless baby is crying, hard. Don't go in if it's just fussing, grunting, etc.

3. My guy doesn't use a paci, but I'd think yes, only during checks.

4. Yeah I'd wait.

5. We didn't have a limit- we thought if we set a limit, then we would've made him cry for no reason. Luckily, the most he cried was 40 minutes, on the first night. I was very surprised, as I thought he would go all night.

6. We only had to check the first night. The subsequent nights, he cried a little bit but it was never the angry cry and it never lasted long enough to warrant a check. We recently did a check once, last week, but I had changed his place so I think he felt unfamiliar and therefore cried more than usual that night.

Good luck!

1) We had tried checks at 5 and 10 min. All they did was piss E off more. So....when we really decided to sleep train for bedtime, I was going to give her 30 minutes. She passed out at 20 minutes on the nose. She escalated, then cycled through crying and whimpering....then escalated again, and then was out. I vividly remember messaging a friend who had just sleep trained and she said her kid went from 10 to 0 like that, too. I actually took her monitor and sat outside, which helped a lot

2) No, i would leave her be if she's not crying and just rolling around. Even to this day, we don't' go in there if she's quiet and just chilling. E does a lot of flopping and grunting and leg kicking....she can do it for an hour. i let her be. If she spits out the paci, let it be. She will either learn to find it or be without it. No need to rescue her when she's not distressed.

3)Not sure about this one. By about that age, E was able to find her wubbanub and crudely stick the animal back in her mouth

4) i would wait 5 min. if you always jump in to replace the paci immediately, she will always expect it. Do "the pause" for a bit.

5) i think my limit is probably 30-45 minutes. I've never had to CIO for longer than 20 minutes. Even now, max, 10 minutes is all it takes. But find your limit but I think having a plan helps.

6) We didn't really do checks, but sleep training took about a week total to kick in. During the 7 days, we had two or three days where she regressed, which i heard was common.

Sleep training was the best thing we ever did. I wish we had done it sooner. You know this, but E has pretty much STTN since, aside from a one-off night or the 18 month regression. Hang in there. It is hard. If it's easier for you, hand the monitor to your DH and go for a walk, then come back after 20 min.

@ mae so how did the first night went? How old is s your LO. Following you on sleep training.

Thanks...i am also scared of swaddle part and my lo wakes number of times for pacifier and cant settle on her own.

So did she wake up again or slept through?

Thanks so much for an honest reply..my lo also wakes up number of times for pacifier. I cant even handle her screaming in middle of night. So i am not sure whether to sleep train her or not.

@Mae: I can't imagine swaddle weaning at the same time as all that! Egads. Your new plan sounds way more manageable. I will tell you even when my LO was putting himself to sleep easy peasy he still had some nights he needed/wanted extra comfort and rocked. It was much much more rare after 12 months and even more so after 18 months but often it would precede a new skill, a cold, a new tooth. You just never know!