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From my experience I have had the opportunity to have a free phone consultation to see if it’s a good fit both ways. Perhaps there are some counsellors willing to provide this service?

Unfortunately it might take some time, but it's worth it to find someone you will click with. Your insurance and Psychology Today have databases of therapists you can look through to get you started. If you don't have a good feeling after a couple of sessions, try someone else. It's frustrating but worthwhile.

In terms of counseling, my therapist would not see my husband because she didn't want to create a conflict of interest. When we went to a marriage counselor together, she occasionally would ask us to do separate sessions, but overall her focus was on us both. I would recommend starting with a couples counselor, if you're both ready to take the step, and then see if that helps, and if you need individual therapy, go from there. Good luck!

I got recommendations from my PCP. They recommended three that worked with my insurance. I went to one and it wasn’t a fit after two sessions, but she suggested someone whose style gelled more with me. Occasionally DH comes to my sessions but my therapist is very clear that she won’t do my individual and couples counseling for both of us to avoid perceived conflict of interest. When DH comes to mine it’s all about how he perceives my anxiety/depression. She would see him separately if he wanted to.

Before I went to my PCP I found someone on psychology today that said she specialized in issues related to pregnancy loss, which is when my problems started, and she was AWFUL, so do your research, but for me recommendations were better than finding someone online.