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Update: it was definitely a chemical.. I'm having a normal flow now, with clots and everything. Needless to say I'm disappointed, but I know we can conceive, so we just have to try again.

@snowjewelz: thanks, I honestly do feel better having you all to talk to.

@Mrs.Lilac: Of course I'm not going to leave this board! I hope I'm still welcome as a cheerleader and supporter of all things BD, symptom-spotting, OPK-evaluating and general excitement. I am SO SO SO impressed with your POAS restraint! I cannot imagine if I'd waited until today-I certainly don't have that kind of patience.

We better be some of the people you "call" after you POAS tomorrow, missy!

@ChiCalGoBee: Of course you are welcome as a cheerleader! We need your squinters(eyes), although I will not be testing early anymore. I think after this experience I'm going to wait until at least the day after expected AF...

@MrsHansen82: So sorry to hear this news. Thinking of you!

@WhenOceansRise: I've been eating crappy this week too, but I think it's just because I'm stressed/anxious. I'm only 4 dpo!

@MrsHansen82: It's hard not to get down, even knowing how common they are. My husband reassured me last month that it was normal (he's a sweetie), and I did read that 60-70% of first-time pregnancies end very early, which was surprising, but made me feel better (at least knowing that it didn't mean something was necessarily wrong with me). I feel the same way though - hoping it doesn't happen again! We can be in this boat together

Just need to vent... Outside of the HB world, everyone I talked to recently just got KU without trying Just found out a coworker who got married in Dec, went off the pill, thinking it will take a few months and got KU already! I only know one girl that tried for 6mo befofe getting KU.

@snowjewelz: I feel you. everyone I know seems to just get KU without trying. We just need to keep trying!

And there are the ones who said they dont plan on trying till xx month/year, and then whoops! Got KU early!

Im sorry Im being a super sour grape!

@Mrs.Lilac: Have a WONDERFUL weekend; you deserve it!

@Mrs.Lilac: so sorry for your BFN. Your attitude is admirable, and I know it's so hard. Love to you from the other side of the pond.

@HellOnHeels: I totally get where you're coming from. My DH was nowhere near as invested or aware as I was/am . If I didn't have Hellobee, it probably would have caused massive arguments because I need an outlet and I know he can only take so much. I have the same fears you do, and since the process is all about waiting (waiting to actively TTC, waiting to ovulate, TWW, waiting for BFP, waiting for doctors test results, waiting for first trimester, waiting to hear heartbeat, waiting to find out if you're having a boy or girl....etc etc), it's hard to keep it in. Feel free to contact me any time you need to vent!

@ChiCalGoBee: Thank you so much! I really appreciate that. Honestly, I am a little worried that DH doesn't want this because when I do talk about it he doesn't really respond and changes the subject. I don't want him to be the kind of dad that would rather be doing anything else then be around his kids and we've seen a lot of that lately... I should talk to him.

@snowjewelz: ugh, we just found out an ex of DH's is KU (DH is very close with her brother, was friends with him before they dated.. anyway) and she was never the type to want to have kids so it's a huge shock to everyone and obv either wasn't trying or for very long.

@HellOnHeels: The only thing I am noticing right now is that I'm super hungry all the time. I want to eat everything. haha, I don't even know if that's a real symptom. But we'll see

@HellOnHeels: I wouldn't worry about your DH not being very involved or seemingly not interested. It is totally different for the men. They say a woman becomes a mum the minute she finds out she is expecting and a father becomes a dad when he is handed the baby. I have found that to be so true of my brother in laws, friends etc. good luck through this. it is a challenging period for relationships.

@Mrs.Lilac: Very true and I guess I will have to remind myself of that. I've noticed with a couple of DH's close friends (that are very similar in character to him) that they weren't as involved until the LO was over a year and more interactive. And I mean they didn't take any iniative and reluctantly took the baby for the first year. I could definitely see that being the same for DH, but even he has said that we will not know until we have our own LO.

@Mrs.Lilac: ahh, sorry about AF. Hoping you won't make it to the 6 month mark!

@whenoceansrise: You're almost there! When are you planning on testing? After 10DPO or after you miss AF?

Besides the fact that I'm barely temping & keep forgetting to use OPK, we're so far so good w/ BD EOD. The bad thing though is now I'm getting confident about this cycle and I'd be really crushed if it doesn't happen, esp just finding out about my friend's recent pregnancy.

@whenoceansrise: Hoping to see good news this weekend for you then! I'm hoping I catch my O surge so we don't have to BD EOD till who knows when!

@Mrs.Lilac: Ugh-I'm glad you're out of limbo, but sad about AF. Your positive attitude is inspiring. Sending love your way.

@hellonheels: My husband, who isn't really a "kid" person, is excited about the prospect of his own kid. We've both admitted to being "excited and terrified," which is good, as we're on the same page. It's a crazy roller coaster, and your DH will be the best daddy to YOUR baby:-).

@whenoceansrise: We're getting closer to the end! I think seeing a stark white BFN would suck more than AF arriving so I'm going to try my damnedest not to test and waste those awfully expensive FRER's. We'll see if I actually hold out hah.
Also getting harder to not symptom spot... noticing A LOT more creamy CM and have that "wet" feeling that I don't normally experience during my LP, and it's not spermies because he haven't been BDing since O. Not sure if that's anything...

@Mrs.Lilac: I'm sorry about AF. Glad you're looking on the positive side of things. FX for a BFP next cycle!!

@ChiCalGoBee: Thanks! I hope it will be the same for us! I know we are both super terrified at the prospect, so I hope he's also a little excited. Hope you're doing well!!