Do you visit them more than they visit you? Do you get annoyed that you have to make all the trips to see them?
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We own our own business and is hard to step away from it so our family comes to visit us. We appreciate them making the drive to visit otherwise, we'd see them far less often!
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FAR more! We would for sure have bought a house by now if we hadn't flown to Europe 7 times in 2 years for weddings!
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My parents, we alwyas travel there. My mom is travel phobic. My brother visits 2-3x a year and I never go to see him in Seattle. MIL it's a joint effort. I'm fine with the way it is but it's does get expensive to travel there as much as we would like.
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I think it is pretty equal. Both of our parents live in different countries, so we have to make extra efforts to see them. What we really like to do though us meet on neutral territory, so to speak, so we can feel kick we are having a vacation.
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My parents we used to travel there way, way more than they came here. Since having Lo they have come up more but we also do see them less, since the trip with a baby is tough.
With the inlaws it's all over, depending on circumstances.
It sucks they we aren't all closer.
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with our parents, it's a joint effort. my brother and his family never come visit us though--i do all the visiting! we've lived in our apt 2.5 years and they've never seen it
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We mostly travel there, a large part though is due to the fact that there are only two of us but both of our families are within 30 minutes of each other. It gets tricky though, we went back for a weekend for a friend's wedding and felt like we needed to squeeze in visits with everyone since we were "only" two and half hours away. Financially it is hard for my mom to travel to us and his parents are just really busy so there are a lot of considerations.
@travelgirl1: We aren't even going to Europe and I still think about all the money we spend traveling, it adds up so fast!
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I would rather visit them. They don't drive when they visit and they are very needy.
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We probably visit my parents as often as they visit us, maybe a bit more. They're both still busy with their jobs, and I usually go to their house when DH is traveling for work. We definitely go to DH's family more than they come to us. It's better that way. It's much easier to be in their territory.
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We visit them about 2/3rds of the time. But, there's only 2 of us, and ALL of our families live in the same city, 3 hours away.
However, we just bought a house with a guest suite and I'm pretty sure they've visited more in the last 3 months than they have the last 3 years!
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We fly out at least once a year, sometimes twice. My parents come out once a year.
It bugs me that I've probably spent 10k on tickers in the last five years for me and my DH. Yet it's "too expensive" for my sisters to come (they came for one long weekend) yet they take trips to Hawaii or Turkey.
I think I resent feeling like I could never take a vacation that's not going home!
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My parents live 2 hrs away. They come here about 2/3 of the time. Basically they got tired of the fact we didn't come up more and started inviting themselves here. I like it
My DH's dad lives about 3 hrs away. He comes here once/year for a trade show and stays with us. We go there usually 1-2 times/year. On one hand it annoys me they always expect us to go there. But on the other hand their unwillingness to come here means we only have to see them like, 2-3 times/year and if they were asking to come down every other month I'd be annoyed.
My DH's mom lives a plane ride away. Since our wedding 2.5 years ago we went there twice and she came here once (but only because we invited her and paid for her ticket). I do wish she made more of an effort to come here like... ever... on her own without us having to pay for it.
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We travel more there. My parents are trying to come out here more now that lo is here
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Yes! DH's family lives only 45min-1hr away. DS is 14 months and they have visited 5 times, 2 of which DH had to pick them up and/or bring them home! MIL just doesn't want to make the drive. Totally ridiculous and inexcusable in my opinion. We've stopped visiting them except for big events and holidays because they make no effort. They see DH's brother 3,000 miles away more than they see us and their only grandchild.
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When we lived a 4.5 hour drive from my parents, they visited maybe a bit more but it was relatively equal. Since we moved across the country, my parents have visited twice and I've been back there twice, but they've spent more time on their trips here than I did. I would have liked to go back more often, but I've been hoarding my vacation time to use toward maternity leave (I'm happy now that I did, but it sucks in the meantime).
The ILs rarely visit us, none of them have ever been to our new place. Granted, it's an international trip and a very long one at that, and my hubby likes going back so it kind of makes sense for us to go...at the same time, I get annoyed that they often complain they don't get to see me enough (hubby usually goes once or twice a year without me; see above regarding vacation-time hoarding). They all have a lot more time off than I do, and we're happy to subsidize their tickets if necessary! And I want to see my OWN family sometimes! Sigh.
I imagine all this will need to be reevaluated once LO arrives, I'm not sure how though.
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We pretty much go home to do all the visiting. We normally do a two week trip and drive out and then fly 2-3 times a year.
This summer we are not driving out. If any of our family wants to see us they are going to have to come out here. We want to spend time in our new house with our baby.
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My parents live about 2 1/2 hours away. I definitely do 99% of the travelling to visit. They've been here twice and my Mum was recently here with my grandmother. I don't mind this as both my grandparents live close to my parents, so I can do triple duty visits while I'm out there.
I hope when we have an LO they will be good in vehicles so I can take them out there for weekends to see everyone...
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We live 2,200 miles from our family. Yes, we go back home more than they come out here. It's really expensive, and because all of our parents are divorced, our trips are always very busy (we have 4 houses to visit) ... It would be much easier if they would come out here (we'd get to spend more time with them), but it is what it is. We chose to move away, so I try to not get resentful of the situation.
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My MIL lives 2 hours away and assumes/expects that we will go to her. She has only been to our home twice in the last 5 years {to see the place and for LOs birth}. It sucks, but mostly I feel for DH.
My parents live 10 minutes away.
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