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I think it totally depends on what you're comfortable with. If you are willing to be a mom over 35 then go for it!!

I don't see age as an issue for having kids...it's actually more common these days for people to get married later and start families later. I'll be 32 this year, and while I feel completely done after this baby, it's not because of my age.

Yes, over 35 is high risk, but so is obesity and there are plenty of under 35 obese pregnant ladies. I don't think there is a stigma just pressure to start (already) if you want multiple children.

I'm 32 ( yes, I had to do the math) and we want a big family so I'm god-willing going to have babies post 35. I'm not terribly worries about it, as a pp said there are a lot of other risk factors that I don't have so we'll take our chances with the age one. My grandmother had a healthy oops baby at 43, so that makes me feel ok about AMA.
We are going stop at 40 no matter what.

I def think that it's a case by case basis and makes me sad that there's such a stigma around it. I'll be 30 in August and the goal is to be done by 35, but mainly because I'd personally like to be done from when we had our DS (within 6 years).

P.S. as an aside, I think you'll have no problem having babies after 35, you're in great shape and live such a healthy lifestyle mama!

I'll be 30 in a few weeks and hoping to TTC for #2 this year sometime. If things go smoothly I could still TTC for #3 before 35 if we decide to have 3...... But I'm leaning towards adopting if we do go for 3 anyway.

For me I'm paranoid because I already had a miscarriage so I want to keep all risks as low as possible. Of course if I was over 35 and happened to not have babies yet, I would still try. I don't think 35 is a magic number where all bad things happen.

I didn't have my LO until I was 37. If we have another I'd like to have the baby before 40. That doesn't leave much time. My doctor took additional precautions because of my age (more ultrasounds) but otherwise I didn't have any issues due to my age.

I'm 33 and I will turn 34 after Baby 2 is born. We really want a 3rd child but we are in no rush before 35!

I thought I wanted to at least get started on building a family before 35, but the closer you get to that age the more you realize that it's not nearly as "old" or unrealistic as it seemed at 20, 25 or 30.

I'm now 34 and trying for our first, and for the first time it feels not like something I could deal with when it happened-- it feels totally right now. I've had my chance to go to school, live overseas, go to school some more, settle into a stable job, and even get a house. None of those are a prerequisite for having a kid, of course, but now I feel much more prepared to be a mom due to both my circumstances and my maturity and experience. I think I can be a much calmer mom than I would have been even 5 years ago.

A lot of women in my social circles are having or had their first after 30, and I also know a few that started (very successfully) at age 35, so I have good role models that help allay my concerns.

I just turned 33 a week ago. I'd like to be done having kids by 35. I'm worried about the increased risks as well. If everything goes according to my ideal plan, I will be pregnant and deliver a second baby at 34. I want mine close in age, just need LO to STTN before DH and I can think of adding another.

I'm not in my 30s but wanted to say I was a surprise bany for my mom when she was 37. At that time she said she felt like the oldest mom on the planet - but I was healthy and happy! Iobviously anecdotal but just from a kids perspective having older parents had some advantages and I know she said it was a lot easier in some ways than when he had my brother in her twenties

@RLCeigh: I'm with you. Now on the other side of 40, I have a hard time wrapping my head around the problems with delayed fertility and family planning. Our timeline has worked so well for us and *for me personally* I would have been a crappy parent in my 20's (though some of the best parents I know are in their 20s).

So for me, it was fully worth the risks to delay having our babies until 38 and 40. Yeah, we did all the screening, but it all turned out ok.

You have to do what is going to work best for you.

I'm 30 now and haven't started TTC yet. I will probably be 31 when we do start and we plan to have 2 with room for consideration for a third. The over 35 risks to baby are what scares me so much especially Down's Syndrome so I'm hoping to have all our LO's before 35 but who knows what will happen? We'll try our best and see.

I don't worry about being an "old" mom, but I do worry about the health risks for the baby the older I get. I'm 32 and just had LO 5 months ago, and I do worry about being able to get pregnant and having a healthy baby this time around as well. Ideally, we'd like to have one more, but it took us almost a year and a half to get pregnant with LO...and I tested at a higher risk for downs when I went for genetic testing. Just worries me!

I'm 34 and just got married a few months ago. On one hand I would've loved for my life to have moved quicker and been able to get married younger and want kids sooner. But I didn't start dating DH until I was 32, after a failed relationship that lasted a few years. And before this I didn't feel ready for the responsibility to be a mom.

I'm trying to get pregnant now and hope to give birth when I'm 35. So I probably won't be able to have baby #2 until I'm 37 or so. It's not my ideal, but it is what it is. This is when and how our life came together, so we'll have to work with it :).

I'm currently 29 and pregnant with my second LO, but I would have no qualms about being pregnant/giving birth past 35 or older. For me personally, we are hoping to have all 4 (maybe?) before i'm 35 (dh is currently 26) for only the reason that we would prefer to have our children grown up by the time we are in our mid 50's -- just have other things we'd love to try out, and also i LOVE big families and would love to have a million grandchildren. totally respect anyone who decides differently!

It worries me a little, even though I live in an area where women tend to delay having children until their mid-30s or so. I'm 31 and LO is 9 months old. I want to wait until she's 2 to try for another, and if that all goes to plan I'll be 33 when the next one is born. After that, who knows? I originally wanted 3 kids, but that's before I knew how demanding parenthood is. If I go for 3, it's unlikely that it will all happen before I'm 35 and so that's fine. I personally probably wouldn't go past 40 unless it happened by accident.

I was 30 when I had my LO and we probably won't try for #2 for at least another year or two. I love being able to spend all this one-on-one w/LO right now. Ideally, I would have started having kids earlier but with grad school, work, etc it just wasn't a good time. I do get a little worried with 35 approaching, but hopefully we'll have #2 before then!

I had my son at 35 and when I was tested my chances of Downs and trisomy 18 were 1 in 10,000. I do not think it makes much of a difference in the health of the baby at all. Most of my friends have had healthy babies after 35. You just have to be more aware of time because we only have so many eggs. i have seen many women in their 20s though struggle with infertility and some older women sail by. I do not think anyone, regardless of their age should take fertility for granted. They say it's healthiest for mom and baby if you have about 12-18 months between pregnancies. We plan to try for number two when i turn 37 in June 2014. As for a stigma, i think stigma's are stupid because there is nothing wrong with having a kid at 22 if you are ready or at 40 if you are ready. we just have to be realistic about what might come along with trying at those ages and then think about our own personal circumstances. To hell with what other people think. go with your own gutt.

I just want to share my perspective as the child of an older mom. My mom was over 40 when she had me and my sister is 2.5 years younger. She's always been older than most of my friends' parents but it never bothered me, and it was definitely a lot more uncommon to have an older mom when I was growing up. In fact, I kind of loved telling people how old she was because they would just be shocked. I think we keep her young! She's ten years older than my dad but it totally doesn't seem that way.

As for any worries about increased risk of having a baby with various different issues, I only have the anecdotal evidence from my life, but my sister and I are totally healthy and normal and we both did well in school and went to the same top-tier university. So basically, this is a long rambling way for me to say, from possibly your future children's perspective, haha, that I wouldn't be worried! I understand your concerns but I'm sure you'll be just as great a mom post-35 as you are now!