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We livenear my FIL, MIL and two BILs. We only see MIL a few times a month and the others maybe once a month.

We didn't move to be near his parents. But we live only 15 min away from them. We see them once a week for dinner so they can see DS. Before that, we saw them 1-2x a month and spent a wknd up north with them during Christmas.

We live about 5 minutes away from both of our parents. My in laws are great at not overstepping boundaries. MIL always calls first and it's usually to plan something a couple days later. When she does call for last minute plans it is usually to help out in some way... Take DS to play in the snow, help with housework, etc. We have a great relationship with both of our parents though! To be honest, my mom stops in last minute more than MIL. But it is usually a nice way to break up my days at home.

We live 15 mins from DH parents and it's far enough where they can't do the pop in but also close enough that they are around I we need help with the girls with pickup/drop off with daycare.

That would be a living nightmare for me. When we lived that close my MIL would stop by when we weren't home under the pretense of taking the dog for a walk (which no, we hadn't asked her to do) and would straighten, fold our laundry (including super embarrassing stuff like my underwear), drop things off that she thought we needed...I know she was trying to be helpful but it felt so so intrusive. And I didn't want to speak up because at that point we weren't married yet. Shortly after our wedding we moved, and this time around she did not get an emergency key.

Eventually we might end up moving back closer to them...if that happens I just won't answer the door if it's not a convenient time for me. Call later and say you were in the shower or napping or whatever, and to call next time so you'll know they're coming and can tell them whether or not it's a good time.