I'm the last among my friends to have kids, which is fine, especially now that I'm pregnant. Since they've had kids, most of them have stopped communicating on a regular basis. Which is also fine - they have little kids, they are busy.

Then I got pregnant. Suddenly I get hour long phone calls. I get e-mails. I get interaction on facebook.

OK, guys, really? I've been trying for YEARS to maintain a relationship with you. To talk for at least five minutes every two months, which most of you didn't "have time" for. I was fine with the phone calls being 100% you complaining about your husband, or telling me inane things the kids were doing, just so long as I heard your voice. And now, NOW! You have time to answer questions like "how was Andy's birth?" Or "what town are you in now?" Now you have not minutes, but hours to talk about houseplants and the perils of X food when before, you couldn't even spare a minute a month to say "Jade is walking now!" or "my husband is deploying again."

I know their schedules haven't freed up any. I'm just suddenly worth their time again. WTF? I met them before they knew their husbands. I helped most of them prepare for their weddings. I was involved with the births of two of their children (including being the "dad" for one). One of their kids learned my name months before learning to say any form of "Mom" or "Dad". I'm pissed off to know that the reason I haven't heard from them was because *I* wasn't interesting enough without a baby in tow.

Sorry. Had to say that somewhere. I don't want them to think I don't want them to talk to me, because I do - I've desperately missed them. But dammit, it shouldn't have taken 2-5 years and a pregnancy for them to bother.