I swear, sometimes I think my kid is going to college with hers!

I know I'm being dramatic, but I'm so frustrated. She's 28 months and uses it only to fall asleep at night, never during the day nor at daycare. I've been trying to wean her but every attempt leads to a completely hysterical kid who cannot settle down. She doesn't ask for it by name or cry for it specifically, she doesn't even know it's gone, honestly, but it's clearly a calming tool for her because without it, she is so restless. Last night she was flailing and throwing toys and just really frustrated (at her inability to settle, I think). It's been taking her nearly an hour to settle to sleep as it is, and her bedtime recently moved later, so I figured I'd give it another shot since the pacifier didn't seem to be actually causing her to go to sleep any faster, and I gave up after an hour of her crawling out of her skin.

I know the answer is to keep trying and be consistent and let her adjust. I just hate the idea of her being so tired and frustrated and upset. I'm kicking myself every day for waiting to do this.