First, I am not a morning person! At all. I'm quick to get frustrated and snap a little too easily, though I work really hard to be more pleasant or just not say anything in the am before I'm awake and more myself.

Anyway... DS has been getting up sometime between 3am and 5am just about every night for the last few months. DH has been getting up with him in the early mornings, since he is an early riser and he hears DS before I do. I've told him many times to wake me up if he needs help or just wants me to get up with him, but he usually doesn't. Finally, last week, DH was getting sick and asked for me to get up with DS in the early mornings for a few days so he could get some rest and feel better. The only way to do it was to move myself and DS into the second bedroom so that we were sleeping in the same room and I would definitely hear DS first and get up before DH woke. But I wake every time he stirs, and don't sleep well. It's been okay, and I've been able to hand DS off to DH at 5:30 (when DH usually gets up) if I need to so I can go back to bed. I'm exhausted waking every 30-60 minutes all night, and last night DH took over so I could sleep.

When DH was getting up with DS over the last few months he inadvertently created a habit of DS getting a full feeding and waking all the way up, making it harder to get him back to sleep. He would be awake about 45-90 minutes. After talking to the Dr. and a few other moms, I thought we had agreed to wean him off the night feedings by giving him a little less each night, so eventually he won't wake up at all. We make the bottle before bed, and keep DS in a dark room. He gets the bottle, then his paci and we hold/rock him until he is calm and sleepy and then put him back down. DS can put himself to sleep, though he sometimes fusses/plays for a while first. It's been working and the wakings are already getting shorter in just 2 weeks.

Last night I was up when DH and DS were up since DS was crying loudly. DH ended up giving him 7 ounces total, when we had worked down to 3 ounces at night time. I was a little frustrated last night when I got up, since I was half asleep and was confused. This morning I was just waking up when DH said that he had given DS a 7 ounces and he went to bed at 5 am after being up for an hour.

I was frustrated that he had given him a full 7 ounces (3 premade, followed by another 4, when I would have just given him an extra 1-2 ounces, to keep up with our trend of smaller feedings).

Later in the morning DH was mad at me for being frustrated. I said that I was exhausted from being up ALL night the previous 4 nights with DS stirring and moving and coughing, and that I thought we were in agreement to stay focused on the plan to try and get DS to not wake up in the early morning. DH came back saying that he's been getting up with DS for months so I shouldn't be complaining. He said that he's not going to deny DS food when he is hungry, like that's what I was doing by trying to wean him off of that early morning feeding. The plan has been working, as usually DS is now up for 10-20 minutes and goes back to sleep until 7am.

I feel like our ultimate goal is to get DS to sleep through the night, so we are all better rested, DS included. He only takes 1 nap at daycare, usually 2 hours, and he is already doing better now that he's awake for a shorter time during the early morning (less tired and fussy by evening time). I'm not trying to tell DH what to do, have offered help, and now we have a plan to fix the situation. I feel like DH is resentful toward me, and I'm frustrated because I feel like we have a potential solution that has been working, and when DH gets up with DS he doesn't always follow it. We are headed to my inlaws for the weekend again and I'll again be sleeping in the room with DS and getting up with him both nights/mornings. I want to stay home and work on DS's schedule, but don't think DH will agree to let us stay, since we were home last weekend.

I know I need to talk to DH about all of this when we get home. I really don't want to be critical of what he's doing with DH, but it's clearly been a problem for all three of us, with none of us getting enough sleep. I tried to tell DH that if we wean DS slowly off that feeding, that he will make up for it during the day. He's been eating a lot less at daycare than he was, and I think it's because he eats a lot in the morning with DH. (6 ounces at his early waking and another 6 when he wakes again at 6:30 or 7).