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@Mrs. Bee: I'd love to read a post about your experiences with 2! My son is 3 and DD is 13 mths and it's pretty tough. I want to be prepared for what's ahead! And I totally agree. It's only hard for a short time and I'm sure I'll one day look back at this time
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@Mrs. Bee: please yes, write a post! i need to mentally prepare myself for what's to come (lots of fighting i imagine...)
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@Mrs. Bee: Yes, please! We are looking at just over a 2 year age gap, I would love any wisdom I can get
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@lemondrop: I definitely think that getting out of the house will be very challenging with 2- especially when the littlest is so little. And my oldest probably still won't understand (at 14 months lol) that he's not supposed to just chase cars in parking lots like a puppy haha. I love the little helper aspect
How old is her baby?
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@Mrs. Bee: Add me to the list of people who would love to read a post about this!!
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@banana: @lemondrop: @Running Elley: There are a few blog posts that touch on the topic here!
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@Running Elley: Her little girl is almost 22 months old and her son just turned 2 months old (gosh he's younger than I thought, I have no idea how she managed to message me back!)
E is just so adorable, you are lucky he's figuring out walking now, I'm sure that will help you when lil sis arrives
C didn't start walking until a lot later. Yes, I skip some errands just because I'm too tired to get one kid in and out of the car seat, I don't look forward to two car seat bucklings! But I guess I don't really think about how our oldest kiddos will just keep getting older and can take on more responsibilities as time passes.
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I'm in the minority here, but I thought going from 0-1 was a breeze vs going from 1-2! Sounds weird, but my eldest was (still is) an excellent sleeper and DH and I adjusted well to having just one baby. She went with us everywhere and we still felt like we got couple time in. She wasn't too demanding
But going from 1-2 kicked my butt!! DD 2 was (still is) more high maintenance... especially the first year! They are 3 years, 5 months apart, which was nice spacing overall, IMO, but also tough because my eldest had terrible 3's worse than her 2's.
But now, they are 5.5 yo and 2 yo, and it's awesome!!! My friend recently used the term, "two OVER two" and said how great it was... I agree, it's definitely easier now that my youngest is more independent and is an early talker. She has more tantrums, yes, but I'm also more equipped to deal with them
They play together pretty well, so I don't feel as tied up entertaining them myself... There are fights/squabbles almost everyday, I won't lie... but they have learned so much from each other in regards to patience, sharing... and negotiations
I am so exhausted at the end of every day, but am so, so glad we had two!
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@mrbee: Fab, thank you! I always forget about searching tags. I remember Waggy's post now that I see it
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@mrbee: Thanks!!! 2 kids wasn't even on my radar when those were published so I'm sure I just skimmed them. They were very helpful at this stage!
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@mrbee: Thanks! I forget about tags too.
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@Running Elley: getting out of the house my my scariest adventure after DD arrived(since you know mine are 15 months apart). But I just make sure I have everything ready to go and hold on to DS tight...because he likes to 'chase puppies too' lol
going from 1-2, even at that age gap, wasn't nearly as scary as I thought it was going to be. I'm training DS to be my helper lol he loves throwing diapers away for me haha
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@MamaBehr: my mom said that going from 2-3 was a piece of cake...she had 3 kids in 29 months....now that's crazy! Haha
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You all are freaking me out! Soooooo thankful Hubs doesn't read HB right now!!!
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*sob*
Every time I think I'm tired and I think DD is being hard, I'm going to repeat to myself, "One is so much easier, one is so much easier..."But if the transition from 1-2 is easier than 0-1, then I'm good.
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I guess I'll make sure to stock up on wine before we have #2.
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@Rubies: If your experience from 0-1 was really tough (I know you had to deal with colic!) then 1-2 won't be as bad! My son was a pretty easy baby so the 0-1 transition wasn't as bad. The hard part of being a new parent was learning the ropes of parenting. With #2, you'll totally know what to do and feel confident in your parenting skills! The hard part of having 2 is that you're constantly busy with very little free time. If you can handle that, then you're good to go!
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Going from 0-1 was really hard for me!! Mostly because I was a SAHM and wasn't very happy doing that.
Going from 1-2, it's a lot more work but I'm much happier! I'm a working mom this time around.
I'm a logistics person while Wagon Sr. is a hands-on person, so the mix of our work really makes things flow well in our house. We make a great team and we're always together so that really helps. When we're apart, though, we really suffer! I do not know how people do it alone!!!!
People who got scared... don't be scared!!! Honestly for us, with a 2 year 7 month difference, the first 4-6 months were REALLY hard, but lately it has been really awesome. We're definitely more tired and go to bed a lot earlier than we used to, but our family days all together are so, so fun.
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@SAHM0811: you make me really excited for "2 over 2"!
@mrs. wagon: Dh and I are almost always together too! We rarely do things solo, so more often than not we divide and conquer and each take a kid. Much much more manageable and I, too, don't know how people solo parent on a regular basis!
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@Mrs. High Heels: We divide and conquer too. And I can't imagine solo parenting two! I bow down to @chopsuey!
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@banana: This is my biggest fear, because we already feel stretched thin with one LO, I dont know how we will manage with two
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@Mrsbells: What helps us keep our sanity is pre-planning. With my son, we kind of went with the flow. We sorta planned the weekend and kinda planned the day's events. Now with 2, we do a lot more pre-planning. We'll pre-pack both diaper bags the night before, we'll discuss who's going to do what the next morning. There's a lot more coordination involved I think. But it's definitely manageable!
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@banana: I'll have to remember this when the time comes.. we want to wait til LO is a bit older before trying for number 2
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@Mrsbells: I hear that the older they are, the easier it is? I don't know because my kids are 2 years apart. But I hear it's harder when they're closer in age.
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@HabesBabe: I was thinking the same thing!! I really want another one, so hearing this kind of scary.
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Today was so tiring! My baby is in an extremely clingy phase right now. I feel bad for my older one because the baby has been so high maintenance and cries all the time. Those of you who can divide and conquer are super lucky!
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@Andrea: Oh no! Parenting solo must be so tough! I parented solo for a few hours last week and I couldn't handle it. I can't imagine doing it for longer than that. I'm weak sauce...
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@banana: thank goodness my kids are asleep!!
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@Andrea: Enjoy the night!!!! I love it when my kids are asleep. aahhhhhh....
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@Andrea: break out the wine!
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@plantains: I had a bit of chocolate ice cream tonight!! Out of wine!!
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@Andrea: mm, even better!
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I think each time you add kids it comes with new challenges. As a first time mom you have all the basics to worry about but a you add kids you still have to learn about each child plus how to manage more than one. I get people who ask all the time how I manage because one is hard enough they can't imagine my day with all four at home by myself. Really though, I think no matter how many kids we have at any given time we are maxed out as parents. One child is stressful and crazy and you can feel overwhelmed. Two kids will do the same. It's crazy and stressful and overwhelming but we just adjust as parents. Each time a new member of the family is added we learn what our knew threshold is.
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@Mrs. Train: Thank you! Very well said. Reading all the previous posts made me really panic about wanting a 2nd.
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@lepamplemousse: don't panic, it's tough but doable!
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@Mrs. Train: thank you for that post! Was getting more nervous about having a second and we've already pushed it back six months to march(ish.) We had a rough transition the first time around so I'm hoping to adjust better next time but one way or another we will all get there!
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I'm totally scared now. DH and I have been talking about TTC next year.....DS will be a little over a year then. Now I'm scared!!!
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ummm yeah, I'm scared too. Now our lifestyle is pretty similar to before we had her. I know all that will drastically change. I have baby fever though. My LO is almost 10 months so we'll see.
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