I'm excited about TTC again eventually, but I'm not excited about having to go through childbirth again. Actually I'm pretty terrified. Even with an epidural it sucked. First of all there's the part before the epidural, and then you have what they call pressure which doesn't sound painful but is, and then there's the after birth issues like tearing. Aren't you supposed to forget all of that pain? Because I didn't. Anybody else scared for their 2nd?
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i did not forget the pain of my first at all. the pain of my second was painful enough to make me cry, but no where near the pain of my first. second time is easier for most moms, so it will probably be true for you too!
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@Mrs. Bee: Good to know! I forgot that we get all stretched out everywhere from the first time. But there's still contractions. At least they won't last forever.
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if it helps, most moms of 2+ kids that I know, including myself, have shorter labors. My first labor was almost 20 hrs long. My second was just 6! I probably actually was in early labor though before I could tell... I was just too busy with my first LO (dropped her off at school) to realize it. when the contractions really started to come on though, they came on strong and fast! However, because it was my second time I think I handled them better thank with my first. Like you said, they don't last forever and that fact kept me motivated!
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I agree with everyone-- all the moms of 2+ kids say the 2nd one was easier than the first.
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@NYCaliMama: I was medicated most of the time so I didn't care how long my labor was, lol. I was sitting there sleeping and watching tv most of the time. I'm actually scared of a shorter labor because I want to make sure I have time to get the epidural!
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I'm totally the opposite- I've completely forgotten how hard labor was, I'm definitely assuming the 2nd time will be way easier, and I'm not worried at all.
It's not like my labor was great- it lasted 20 hours, pushed for 3, and started at 10:30 PM so by the time I had the baby, I hadn't slept in a couple days... but I have total childbirth amnesia.
I tried to tell my husband the other day that I'd rather give birth again than have to go to the dentist (I HATE dentist trips), and he was like "I think you are remembering this inaccurately." -
@Lozza: Lol, that's a good thing though! I would love to not be terrified to have more kiddos!
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Now that I know what to expect, I'm not afraid. I had 3rd degree tears the first time around so I figure it can't be much worse the second time.
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@artbee: true, the shorter the labor, the faster you need to get to the hospital/birth center! well since i went natural, i'm thankful to my lucky stars that i had a pretty short birth the second time around. honestly, it's a huge reason why i didn't get the epidural. there was no time. i was pretty much pushing when i got to the hospital. pushing is fast too... only took me two pushes!
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I remember all of the pain but I don't care, having another baby is worth the pain
I kust hope labor is much faster this time!
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My first labor was 13 hours and was terrible. My second labor was only 6 hours and wasn't anything like the first.
I'm not at all worried./scared about labor with the third when that time comes.
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@Crisark: See I think I liked the unknown better. Before I thought it would just hurt until I got my epidural. Now I know it hurts while pushing too, and I had a 2nd degree tear so it hurt long after the baby was born.
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The thing I am the most afraid of is being able to have a natural labor & delivery again...I did it the first time but I'm scared I won't be able to the second time so I will be reading books & preparing even more this time. I heard somewhere that it takes a women's body 7 years to forget--I hope that is true!!
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@artbee: I was way happier knowing what to expect. I really hate surprises so for me, having as much info and personal experience as possible makes me happy.
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I am not afraid to do it again. It took me almost 30 hours, too! I feel like it is no big deal since now I know what to expect.
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I feel fine with the prospect of doing it again. I managed it once, I can do it again. I am more worried about the recovery, getting stitches again.
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I think I'll be ready for the 2nd time around. My 1st one was an amazing experience but I will never forget the "transitioning". I was so cold!
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I was super nervous the second time around cos it was twins and I hoped not to get a double whammy (twin a delivered vaginally and twin b via c-section). Epidural is god sent but I was so nervous and shaking so badly - I don't remember being this shaky with my first!
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I am terrified of having another baby and C-section because my first one was a nightmare. But maybe I'll opt for general anesthesia next time!
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@autumnlove: I didnt know you could opt for general anesthesia? I thought only the doctors could decide to use that type of anesthesia and only in emergencies?
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The anesthesia used on me stopped working shortly after my Dr. started my C-section. I was asked if I wanted to bear through it or get general anesthesia. I know that was a prob a one time thing but if it happens again..I will choose general!
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My LO is only 6 months old. I'm hoping the trauma will wear off. I know I'll have another child (or at least want to), but I don't want to go into it with such a vivid recollection of the first time. Not that it was a really, really difficult birth. But still, it's not exactly the most pleasant experience.
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