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Thanks everyone for the feedback! I think the trickiest part is as @anagram: said - there's no good reason for the wakes - she shouldn't be hungry, she's plenty big enough size-wise to manage sleeping through....I'm considering that maybe we disrupt her when we come to bed (she sleeps in an alcove/pass through room between our bedroom and DD1's, with a door on DD's side but not ours) - I might try her in DD1's room, since DD1 is a sound sleeper.

@mamaof2: He does - no luck! She'll often settle in his arms (easier for him than for me), but he's rarely able to successfully transfer her back to her crib. And if he settles her in our bed and she figures out I'm there, she's after milk, and if she gets milk, then she wants to sleep on my arm (it's like a bad version of "If you Give a Mouse a Cookie")

@anagram: Thank you so much for posting this - it doesn't give me a very positive outlook (nor does my mother-in-law reassuring me that "it's okay, your brother in law didn't sleep well at night till he was 7!", haha)...but misery loves company, right?! It's nice to know that other families have sleep issues and my kids aren't on a personal mission to terrorize me!

I hear you on the lovey game - it's part of my nearly 3-year-old's bedtime routine to cry and insist that she wants me to take her lovey/blanket/doll away, put it upstairs...then as soon as I leave the room she giggles and starts crying and asks me to bring it back. I need to get that girl an agent, she's a phenomenal actress...but honestly since she sleeps fabulously otherwise, I'm willing to play into the antics.

@miramira: Thank you! I know it's important to remember that she is still small (although this her raging temper makes me feel like I've got a 14 year old in the house, haha!) Neither of us would mind it if she just wanted to sleep in our bed, but she wants to be either in my arm or on DH's chest. It is very sweet, and for awhile we tried to just enjoy it, but as she's gotten bigger she's a more restless sleeper, so at this point we get more sleep when she's in with us, but it isn't good sleep. I also have a nearly three year old, and I'm a little concerned about her feelings if she notices that her sister is allowed to sleep with mommy & daddy but she isn't....and though we've managed it on a few really awful nights of teething and night terrors, the bed is NOT big enough for 4!

@trailmix: This is what I suspect we will have to do - wean her completely. That I'm working on daytime weaning right now, and that is going easier than expected - she's a total boob monster so I expected more tears. It helps that she's just sprouted 4 teeth at once over the last week or two and isn't afraid to use them on me, so I'm less emotional about cutting her off than I thought I'd be.