Was just grocery shopping (alone!) and a woman came up to me said she was a midwife and asked how far along I am.
I let her know I was actually postpartum and they she apologized and asked how old the little one was. 8 months. I'm 8 months postpartum not pregnant.
This was a serious kick me while I'm down because of how low I've been feeling about my post baby body. Writing this out in the parking lot trying not to cry. Words of encouragement and stupid stranger bashing wanted. 
grapefruit / 4321 posts
Good Lord. This woman sounds like a pretty terrible midwife/person if she doesn't know that you NEVER just randomly ask a woman how far along she is. I'm sorry that happened to you... I'm sure you are lovely!
grapefruit / 4442 posts
First off happy Mother's Day. I swear the peanut gallery needs to just go to hell. sending you lots of love and fluffy mommy power!
Sometimes I get offered a seat on the train because I have a fluffy belly. Well I now just take them. If these people are going to assume and offer their seats then I will take it! 
pomelo / 5258 posts
Way to poop on someone's Mother's Day, stupid stranger.
@knittylady: Hugs and Happy Mother's Day to you. Go home to your family. They'll show you what really matters. Hint: it is not what some idiot at the grocery store thinks and it has nothing to do with the shape of your body.
persimmon / 1447 posts
My goodness, what kind of medical professional, or hell WOMAN, asks another woman how far along they are?! I'm sorry you're feeling poorly about yourself and this woman just made you feel worse!
I was asked at my grandmother's funeral how far along I was- at 8 months PPP as well.
grapefruit / 4770 posts
Oh man, I am so sorry this happened. Your body is strong, and carried and birthed another human being! And we celebrate you not just today, but everyday for all the wonderful things you do. Hopefully, that midwife thinks before she speaks next time. No one should be made to feel badly about their body image. ((hugs)).
pomegranate / 3791 posts
What an asshole. As a midwife she should know WAY better than to just ask a total stranger that! I'm sorry 
pomelo / 5084 posts
Oh jeeez what a moron she is. Don't feel bad though-every single person I know who has had a baby had a bit of poof for the next year 
Don't let it bother you! I am expecting it for myself too!!!!
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
Uhhhh was she trying to solicit your business or something? Well, guess that plan backfired! So sorry that happened to you!
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
Happy mothers day to you! You are so much more than what one random stranger thinks of you. It's ok if you need to have a little cry but you are beautiful and strong. 
nectarine / 2521 posts
People don't think before they speak at times! Your body went through a major transformation and it is going to take time. ..and that time is not in the first year or two when you are trying to survive on broken sleep, whatever food you have energy to make, and zero energy left over at the end of the day.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
In sorry that happened! Who would ask that??
You carried a baby and your body will never be the same- even if it goes back to looking like it did before, it's still changed because it made a baby! I hope your LO and SO are showering you with love.
And I was asked several times if I was pregnant loooonnngg before I was even thinking bout having babies. I carry weight in my stomach. At first I was embarrassed, then I decided the askers should be embarrassed, not me, so I just tried to make them uncomfortable for asking.
pineapple / 12234 posts
Hugs!!! That's the crappiest feeling! I've totally been there. But you know what, when I'm not getting sleep and taking care of an infant, the last thing on my mind is working my butt off to lose the baby weight.
I was definitely in survival mode the first year and once that passed, I was able to refocus on myself and not look pregnant lol.
Not saying that's true for you! But screw other people who can't understand that asking others when their due is NOT nice.
pomegranate / 3643 posts
People! I think people don't really think about what women actually look like. Yes, we have curves, especially those of us that have gotten to experience the miracle of birth. And yes, "curves" isn't just hips and butts and boobs - our tummies curve out too. And that's fine! And good! You were your baby's first home! You are beautiful!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Happy Mother's Day! Sorry about her comments!
My eye Dr. asked me how far along I was on Fri. 24 weeks. "Wow, don't take this the wrong way but aren't you really big and showing a lot for only being 24 weeks?!?"
cantaloupe / 6885 posts
Ugh - I've been asked this question twice when I nowhere near pregnant, or even PP (once while I was trying to get pregnant, that was fun!). People are so RUDE!!
pomegranate / 3212 posts
Thanks everyone for the kind words! I had two babies 15 months apart and need to let up on myself. It's just so hard when the voice criticizing you in your head comes out of another persons mouth. Ugh.
kiwi / 735 posts
I'm sorry! She should have known not to ask. I'm sure she feels embarrassed. Happy Mother's Day! Two babies 15 months apart is an accomplishment!
pineapple / 12793 posts
@knittylady: you are an amazing an beautiful mother. She is a sucky midwife and crap person. Be kind to yourself mama, you've had a busy 15 months.
pineapple / 12526 posts
Happy Mother's Day!
First, that woman is a douche. Second.... You are BEAUTIFUL, mama. Dont let yourself or anyone else tell you different.
kiwi / 698 posts
So rude and inappropriate of her! I'm sorry that she put a damper on your Mother's Day. Try to let it go and be proud of what that body has done!
persimmon / 1188 posts
I'm sorry that happened to you. It was very inappropriate to assume and honestly even if your belly is still big I don't think you look pregnant like about to go into labor pregnant where someone could tell for sure. You're not alone. My son is 17 months and my belly area doesn't look anything like it did before. It was never amazing but now I'd describe it as crazy. And I'm a petite person so it is not cute on me. I try to work on it but I don't do as much as I should because you know I'm trying to support my family and raise a good kid. Makes sense I just wish it made me feel better when I look in the mirror!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
Wow you'd think a midwife of all people would know better! Unbelievably rude. Please don't let her ruin your day! Your body has done so much! Two babies in 15 months is hard!
Shame on HER
coffee bean / 46 posts
How about I share what I saw as a funny story to hopefully make you feel better about the dumbo-heads out there.
A supervising psychologist I really dislike because she is such an inflexible know-it-all shared a story about asking a teacher at her kid's school how far along she was thinking she had a sizeable bump... Turns out the woman had a TUMOR! My supervisor felt awful and though I felt awful for the poor woman with the tumor an evil part of me snickered at my supervisor for being such an insensitive dimwit.
moral of the story: don't ever ask unless you know for sure! geez!
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
Ugh! I'm so sorry.
Wishing you Happy Mother's Day. Hope your day gets better. Hugs!
coconut / 8079 posts
I'm so sorry. People are so stupid. I hope you have a fantastic day with your precious babies and forget all about that dumb woman and her comments!
coconut / 8472 posts
I had this happen to me last summer. I had an 8 month old and an old woman patted my stomach and commented about the next one. I was practically in tears.
grapefruit / 4455 posts
I'm sorry she made that idiotic comment. I hope she's a better midwife than I think she is right now.
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