Hi!! I am a stay at home mom and aboslutely love it! Everyday I am so grateful!! Lately though the reaction I get from others is I should be bored and lonely but I am totally not!! Once in a while of course lets be real but I do really love it more than anything. Even my family has notice how much happier I am! I really don't want to come off the wrong way here (bragging or anything) I just wonder why I am so content when everyone else is telling me I shouldn't be... this is all I have ever wanted to be a mom and stay home and take care of my home -- maybe I am just a 'boring' person who finds it fun doing all those things other people find too simple and uneventful... not sure... just looking if anyone at all can relate!?!?!?
pomelo / 5866 posts
I think I would be happy as a stay at home mom. I am also happy as a working mom. You totally have permission and encouragement to be happy whatever your work/home situation is currently, whether it is different or the same as mine. Being happy with my family work/home choice, is something I can relate to.
grapefruit / 4545 posts
I am not a SAHM, but I frequently get "oh isnt it just awful having someone else raise your kids" comments - or some light version of the same sentiment. I find that most often when people project those types of comments on to me its because they are suffering from their own frustrations or insecurities with their situation - so I let it just roll off.
No one should be surprised or shocked when someone is happy in their situation. Sure everything comes with its pluses and minuses but thats just life.
pear / 1728 posts
Totally agree with the above comments. I get comments from people all time trying to empathize with me about how hard it must be to leave my daughter at daycare, someone else raising my kid, etc. but I'm totally happy with my situation and I want to work.
People are going to criticize/comment on your situation no matter what you're doing, unfortunately.
blogger / cherry / 174 posts
I've often felt this way. When we first moved to our current town and friends found out I was SAHM. They would text be numbers of great daycares and nannies. So people found it difficult to know how I can be content as a SAHM. Having said that, as my kids go through to different stages or difficult things arise, then I find myself eager to be working. It ebbs and flows for me.
nectarine / 2431 posts
@Mrs D: Exactly this.
I also WOH and people assume I should be miserable or that my sister who stays home with her 5 kids and homeschools them should be miserable, but we aren't because it works for our personalities/lifestyles/family. I know plenty of people who are unhappy with their situation, so why knock someone who is overall happy with their situation? It's beyond me.
nectarine / 2010 posts
I think it is also important to remember that some people can be happy in (almost) all situations while some people are always unhappy. The unhappy people tend to think others should feel the same way or put their own issues on others. And as previous posters have shared it can go both ways on this topic.
There is nothing wrong with feeling happy and content in your current life.
apple seed / 3 posts
Thanks everyone for commenting! Everyone made so many great points ~ it is so true that each individual person is going to do what works best for their family! Like others said it is important to recognize happiness will be achieved differently for each person ... we should avoid projecting our own ideas and opinions on others
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Ugh, people and their comments!
It's GREAT that you are happy and content as a SAHM! You rock and and do you! People who make those comments are either 1) not parents 2) SAH as well but aren't happy 3) WOH and are unahppy 4) WOH and are so happy they can never imagine your side...
apple seed / 3 posts
@snowjewelz: awww thanks!!! everything you said is so true! thanks for your message
grapefruit / 4455 posts
Who cares what they think? People have so many incorrect perceptions about what being at home with kids is like, what working with kids is like, etc. They might be trying to relate, or just having no filter, whatever. In the end it only matters how you and your significant other and kids feel.
coffee bean / 43 posts
I'm a part-time work-from-home-mom and I love being at home with my little all day. At times, I do miss the fast-pace and income that came with working full-time in an office, but at this stage of life I can't imagine doing anything else. To be honest, most of the time I wish I didn't need to work because I always feel guilty for the times I'm not able to fit my work into his sleeping hours and have to turn on the TV to keep him occupied to I can wrap up a project. Most days, though, it's the perfect arrangement and I really do appreciate the opportunity to be with him all day long.
I know a lot of women who really crave and need the ability to exercise their mind outside the home - my mom being one of them, and I completely respect that! Everyone should have the choice to spend these years as they need to without judgement.
Happy working moms, happy SAHM moms - everybody's awesome and just doing the very best they can.
coffee bean / 36 posts
@themrsgoff: your absolutely right couldn't of said it better myself!! " Happy working moms, happy SAHM moms - everybody's awesome and just doing the very best they can."
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
I was a stay at home mom for 7 years and I loved it. I was good at it and was quite content. Now I work out of the home and I am also content. I think sometimes people just don't realize how their comments can affect people. There is nothing wrong with being happy at home!!
nectarine / 2433 posts
@mommy20: I think it's wonderful that you are so happy. I plan on taking time off when my #2 comes so I love hearing stories like this. You do you. I know many moms who love being home. The time is so short lived when our babies are so young and impressionable.
persimmon / 1132 posts
Yeah for you! Whether WOH or SAH, I think having a conscious choice in the matter (rather than having circumstances decide for you) is sometimes what makes it so joyful and liberating for some and not for others.
For many years, I didn’t have kids (didn’t find the right guy until later and then dealt with IF) so it also bothered me when people complained about kids basically messing up their lives and wasn’t I so lucky to be free... People and their comments!
So I relate to your joy but in a different way. I’m ridiculously happy with every part of being a mom, even what others see as the dull or overwhelming bits. If I had been able to have kids earlier, I would have been happy staying home. But having kids later gave me the opportunity to establish a great career, so I love being and feel lucky to be a lean-in working mamma.
I also agree with PP that some people are optimists and some are pessimists, no matter what.