Maybe when we get a house...we can host my parents and in laws for Thanksgiving or Christmas? Does anyone do this now or do you keep the family gatherings separate?
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Nope, we have separate gatherings. I wouldn't mind hosting and doing something joint sometime in the future though!
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Yes, we do this now that we have our own house! DH and I both have very small families, so it's easy to have both sets of parents and my SIL at our place.
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We do them together because my side of the family is very small! Just my parents and my aunt (sometimes) come in town. We all get together with Dh's family. And my SIL's in-laws also come. So it's just a ton of people.
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No. DH's parents are divorced and remarried and don't speak to each other so we either so his moms, his dads, or my parents. Luckily at the wedding everyone was very amenable And nice to each other
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We had both families the first time we hosted Thanksgiving, which was like 5 years ago. It was fun, but very tiring. I was working at Starbucks at the time, and I had to work both Thanksgiving day and Black Friday, so I was exhausted by the end.
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Usually we do thanksgiving with my parents and our closest family friends, but this year, we are hosting my parents and my inlaws. The only other option was going to my SILs without my parents (and with her family) which was not going to happen so now we are cooking for 8+ in our studio! I am excited but apprehensive.
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My mom had us and my parents in-law for Christmas last year, as well as a bunch of our extended family (about 14 people). Afterwards my mom vented to me a bit that my MIL hadn't offered to help in the kitchen or clear dishes etc and that she didn't offer her condolences to my Mom about my Grandfather who had passed away a few weeks before hand. Her vent made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I'm quite sure my Mom won't be inviting them over again and I feel awkward having them all over at the same time to our place for another event! *Sigh*. It would make special occasions lot easier if we could!
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We always host a mid December holiday party every year so we can get both sides together
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We have never done holidays with both sides of the family but have done like a graduation party since DH and I graduated at the same time. It was kind of an awkward situation so I don't see any joint family gatherings in the future.
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It bothers us a lot that SIL keeps trying to do this. Her parents keep insisting that we show up, and the alternative is not spending the holidays with them. They don't get that we want to have the holidays with just them and not her horrid in-laws who say hurtful things.
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Every holiday we do together. My in laws are the only ones in our area from my husbands side so we always have my family and his parents together. Our parents get along great together. The even go on vacations together. So it just seems natural to celebrate the holidays together.
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We'll usually do something with both of our parent's for Thanksgiving or Christmas if it works out--it gets a little tricky as my dad's parent's (my grandparents) also still like to host something for his whole side of the family...it gets to be a lot!
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We keep our separate. One, DH's family is 4 hours away. Two, my family is huge, aunts, uncles, cousins, lot of kids. While we would welcome them, the dynamics are so different, better to keep them separate.
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Ours are separate because we all live far apart from one another (my family - 3.5 hours, hubby's - 1.5hours).
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I'd love to do this, but we live far away from my parents and ILs.
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I don't see this ever happening for us. Our families are so different and so spread out that it would be a huge undertaking to get everyone in one place. Generally we alternate from year to year who we spend the holidays with.
I wish that we could do Christmas morning with his parents and Christmas dinner with my parents. That would be ideal.
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We keep things separate... our parents have nothing in common and don't speak the same language, so I'm just picturing the most awkward get together possible.
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For the most part, we keep things separate and switch off between families for Thanksgiving and Christmas. So, for example, we'll be celebrating Thanksgiving ON Thanksgiving day with my parents this year and Christmas ON Christmas with Hubs family. Then next year, his family will get Thanksgiving and mine will get Christmas.
But, since we have a house now and I knew we were planning on being pregnant for this year's holidays, we decided to host Thanksgiving last year and invited both sides. It was fun, although hectic, and I'm not sorry we're not doing it again, haha.
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Ours are separate. Our families live on opposite coasts from each other, so logistically it would be hard anyway, plus neither of our families are that small-- my immediate family including spouses and babies is 12, soon to be 13. We alternate, but have agreed to do more Christmases with his side since we see mine more ofter throughout the year.
I wish we could do Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with his-- that's how we split it up with my parents' sides growing up, but we all lived within 2 hours of each other. I don't ever see everyone coming to us-- most of my family is all clustered together 4 hours away from us, so it wouldn't make sense for them to all come to us, and his family is on the West coast. -
We try to host either Thanksgiving or Eater at our house so that both sides of our families can be together and we don't have to travel :). Christmas is a nightmare because both DH and my parents are divorced and we end up driving all over the place. This year will be different since we have a LO of our own but we still haven't figured out how it's going to work... Ugh.
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If it were feasible I totally would. DH's family live in NY though. But our families love each other so I know they would.
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No bc they live 8hrs away from each other. I hope to convince my family to come up for Christmas one of these years!
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we do thanksgiving with my in-laws and my family.
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We keep them separate. It's easy for us to do that because we live so close, and most of the Jewish holidays are celebrated during multiple days so we can go to my parents for one day and DH's parents the next. We like it because we always get two dinners
Both of our families always have lots of extended family and usually friends too come, so it will be at least 15 people at each dinner. If we invited both families to our house that would be 30 people, or more. We have a tiny house, it's just too much.
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I come from a really small family.
My mom and her husband joined SO's family here in FL last year.We invited everyone here for Christmas this year, as I'm due the week before. My mom and her husband, my dad, and SO's family are all coming. MIL decided to go on a cruise instead.
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We hosted Thanksgiving last year with both sides-- my side is just me and my mom! And the hubs' family is small, too (just him, his brother, and his parents). So both sides was only 6 people. This year it'll be 7 with the baby. Totally manageable!
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My inlaws are on another continent, so this never comes up! When my sister in law lived up here she would come to my parents place with us for Christmas. I would probably consider having everyone over if they lived here, they all get along really well.
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