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Never had it happen to me IRL...who knows about people you meet online though!

@lawbee11: I've used it for years for writing and my husband calls me that half the time, but no. I use it for a lot so I feel like it's "me" still though. It's so much part of me that we talked about using it for a baby as a sort of junior.
But my employers and professional contacts don't know the name, so I feel like it keeps some separation between personal and professional stuff.

I've used it for my writing for a long time so I actually get mail to that name, the post office knows the pseudonym.

@.twist.: Most people do think it's my name online, I answer to it in real life too. Once I get to know someone well online I'm comfortable sharing my legal name, but I try not to post it publicly.

@Arden: Makes sense! A few friends of mine have called me twist from time to time.

@Mrs. Blue: I can see certain situations for sure.

I always sign my wall posts and introduce myself online with my MIDDLE name. This is for 2 reasons:
-1 I don't want employers or someone in the future (because I use my actual first name on resumes) to google me and find all my HB threads
-2 I actually am commonly referred to by my middle name because my first name is hard to pronounce
And my close hb friends (or anyone who has ever sold me anything and shipped it to me) knows this.

It is really freaky when meet-ups happen. I can't imagine meeting up with someone an it not be them or something scary like that. I almost get being anonymous for privacy or security, but it gets SCARY when it's done just to lure someone in or something.

@oliviaoblivia: I know someone who lied about cancer too. Must be the thing these days. ::sarcasm::

My boyfriend in Jr. HS was a compulsive liar and it took me months to realize it. He lied about who he was, who his father was, where he went (even if it was just to go to the store).

In HS, I had the misfortune of getting to know a girl that lied about other people to make herself look good. She would tell me her cousin tried hooking up with her boyfriend and went on with detailed stories. Months later, I get a call from her ex-bf (that I didn't even know) asking me where I met my then bf. Turns out she made up an elaborate story about how she was with me when we first met and he actually fell in love with her first. Umm, we went to the same school for years! She was cray!!

@Smurfette: I'm sorry if I made you feel mislead, that wasn't my intention. I do consider Arden my name because I've been using it as a pseudonym for a long time, but I could have been clearer about that.
There are a couple users that do the same thing or some that did in the past like NaturallyCathy and I didn't feel mislead by her at all, so I really didn't think anyone would take it personally. I apologize.

And I can assure you that I'm not making up fiction in my posts (what would be the point of that? I come here to talk about baby issues...), I just prefer to use a different name. I'm sorry you feel that way.

@Arden: To be honest, when I saw this thread pop up I thought that I might be brought up. I fully admit by going by my middle name on here, initially referred to my kids by their middle name and even a 'second choice' name for my daughter. But then I became comfortable with the community and felt guilty that I wasn't be truthful when so many other wonderful people were. I fully admitted who I was before I went to the GA meet up because I couldn't take the guilt anymore (with hubs permission/knowledge). Everyone seemed to understand and I was forgiven in a manner. At least I hope I have been

@Arden: Has never bothered me sweets You know that!

@SugarplumsMom: whoa!!! Did she ever get called out?

Fine. I admit it. I'm 5'11" and 3/4 and not 6" tall.....

Sorry, couldn't resist.

@Arden: I don't think anyone is "hurt" (at least I'm not). I do think it's a little odd, though. I get not wanting to share your name on the internet, but then I guess I just don't get why you'd share any name at all or go out of your way to present a name as yours that isn't. There are plenty of people that I've interacted with on here for over a year and I have no idea what their name is and I'm fine with that! But when you start creating fake Facebook profiles with that name (and what I assume is a fictitious last name as well?) it's just a little....strange and kinda rubs me the wrong way.

@Mrs. Grizzly Bear: I honestly didn't even think of you when I saw this thread. That was so long ago and you came clean and I had totally forgotten about the whole thing!

My BIL's ex girlfriend lied big time about her past, skills, family, and even DOB. She wanted to impress him so said she was much older than she really was (added 8 years but couldn't do the math right on DOB). Her stories just never added up. They met at a bar, she was pregnant with his baby a month later, and so moved in together very quickly. I could sense something off about her. My BIL just turned a blind eye and it was kind of late already because she was pregnant with his child. They ended up having another kid together and she just walked out on them one day. We ended up raising those kids until BIL got his life back on track recently.

As far as lying online, I am sure it happens too but it happens in real life also.

@sorrycharlie: I didn't bother. She was just crazy. She actually made up a lot more stuff about me - really bad stuff, kind of like what she'd say about her cousin. She didn't even go to my school anymore and I figured if anyone actually believed the stuff she said, I wouldn't want anything to do with them anyway and anyone decent enough wouldn't take long to figure out she's really crazy.

I don't think so. Although, I did make a really good friend on HB & my mom was convinced I was being catfished for a long time.

@lawbee11: I created the Facebook profile for the purpose of my blog, but also so I could keep up with hellobee friends. I didn't feel it was "fake", just seperate. I'm sorry if it rubbed you the wrong way, it wasn't meant that way. I like being able to keep up with hellobee friends through it. Would people have felt better if my Facebook didn't have a name at all, and it was just like "Bee Person"? I guess I just didn't realize people would mind the fact that I use a seperate name on public social media for the purpose of privacy.

@Arden: I think you are a really well spoken person, but I also knew "Arden" wasn't your real name because you've mentioned your real name as part of another username you've had. So when I read posts about "Arden" bring your real name I thought to myself, hmm, that's weird, why would she do that? Made me wonder what else was made up.

@looch: I'm sorry. Do you still feel that way now that I've explained my reason for the name change? Once hellobee went out of beta and I realized it could easily be googled by anyone, I went to using my old pseudonym. I hope that doesn't make you mistrustful of my posts, I have no reason to use false info for anything else, just my name.

I guess I don't understand why someone would tell people that their pseudonym *is* their real name. I would just avoid telling people my actual name if I wanted to keep it quiet. I don't recall ever specifying what my actual name is, but it isn't Sunny

But to answer the original question, I don't know anyone who has ever been a huge liar online. My real life and online life don't really intersect that much! Of the HB people I've met, they are all genuine and very sweet