I currently am a FT WOHM. I always planned on working FT and balancing this somehow with raising kids while my partner also worked. Before I met DH, I imagined that we would both adjust our work schedules and/or negotiate some flexibility to be able to make this work. I thought being fulfilled in work would help make me be a better mom.

Of course, life is what happens while you are making other plans. My wonderful DH decided to pursue a medical career and is currently a 3rd year med student. This has meant that he has zero control over his schedule and I have become the default parent for many things. We knew this going in, but the reality is that we are facing at least 4 more years of this zero control, combined with long, unpredictable, and annoying hours.

I am finding myself reconsidering what makes sense for me and for our family and the idea of SAH or at least very part time work seems more and more appealing. But it is never what I had envisioned for myself so I am adjusting to the idea and trying to picture it.

Is anyone else in the same boat? I am not trying to cast judgement on choices, just thinking about their evolution...

(thanks for reading my novella if you got this far! :))