Or lack thereof..
I bought an apartment two weeks ago and moved in this past Friday. To me, it's a really big deal because I'm 30 years old and finally a homeowner! But what's been bugging me is the fact that my two older sisters have chosen to 'ice' me. They have not spoken to me at all since I made the general announcement (to our whole family) and only after I wished my oldest sister Happy Birthday this weekend did she finally text back "thx - congrats on the apartment - what's your new address?" My other sister hasn't spoken a word to me in two weeks and we usually speak multiple times a day.
The reason they are so mad is because they know our parents helped me with the down payment. And even though they have received (almost) the same amount from our parents for similar things, they are mad at me because they think I'm the favorite. I am the youngest and everything has always been easier for me. So they are ganging up on me and giving the silent treatment.
I'm trying not to let it bother me, but it does. I feel really lonely like I lost two friends and I don't think it's fair that they're taking out their anger on me. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? Should I try to reach out to them, and if so, what should i say? I'm afraid they will just blow up at me if I try to open up a line of communication.
I"m sorry you're dealing with this. The good thing about sisters (and i know you know this) is that even when things get ugly they always resolve in the end. I think maybe you should let them know how you feel. Maybe call them and say "listen, I feel like you guys are mad at me cause mom helped me out a little but she's helped you guys out too and that's never bothered me..." Maybe provide examples if they get 'ugly' about it. Or text them how you feel. Sometimes I find texting my sisters is less confrontational. Getting a new home is exciting - congrats!! I hope they come around quick.
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