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@HLK208: oh I like that come back! I'll have to try that one.
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He does look like you!
I hear this from my family and friends a lot and my MIL likes to talk about her dominant genes. Lol
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@HLK208: I like it!
@mrskc: I can totally see you and your DH both in him. I think he's one of the most adorable little boys I've ever seen!
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Dh gets this a lot
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@mrskc: that is simply rude. I'm sorry you have to go through that.
My LO has bright blue eyes and DH and I have dark brown eyes, every single person that meets her makes the snide comment "who is really the father?". It is exasperating to both DH and I. She's also very fair skinned and I am darker so I'm also constantly getting asked "are you sure she's your baby?" People are the worst!
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@mrskc: it's so simple but when you have a straight face and call them out, it makes the other person truly uncomfortable. Haha...as they should! Those comments unacceptable!
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I think things like this are so weird ... It's like asking a pregnant woman if she's having twins?! What the hell is wrong with people.
I would like to think I'd just tell them that it's a rude thing to say ... and I'd totally play the 'vagina' card!
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That bugs me too. My DH is 1/4 Japanese and has super dark hair and eyes. I'm fair with blonde hair and blue eyes. DD has darkish hair (it was super dark when she was born) and even though her eyes are blue like mine, they are shaped like DH's, and she's got his darker skin tone. His entire family is always saying how much DD looks like him, and someone actually told me days after giving birth that it looked like "her daddy pushed her out!" Um, no, I did, and I have the belly, stretch marks, tears, hormones, leaky boobs, uterine contractions, and pain to prove it, thankyouverymuch. People are stupid. I just make sure to try and not say things like that to other parents because there is something special about someone telling you something about your baby, whether it be personality, mannerisms, or looks, is like you.
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@mrskc: people overstep and are rude.... And I totally think he looks like you!
PLEASE pull the vagina comment next time and report back to us on the reaction !!! Lol
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I just smile and say, "what makes you say that?" so they realize they were rude without me having to be rude.
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the vagina comment will win...every. time.
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Some people really don't think twice before they open their mouth. ugh! That's so rude!
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Awww I think he does look like you! I get where you're coming from. At birth LO was my carbon copy but now at 1 everyone says she looks just like Daddy.
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@Bookish: I get the exact same comments. *sigh*
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Ugh, so it finally happened today. We were at the store when a woman behind us in line said, "is that your daughter? She don't look nothing like you." I wasn't sure if I should be more offended by what she said or by how bad her grammar was!
Sigh - people just don't know when to shut their mouths.
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@mrs. wagon: I really dont think a lady should *ever* pass up an opportunity to mention her vagina.
@mrskc: so rude:( I'm sorry:( I don't know why people would think that's ok to say. P.s: A is the perfect combo of BOTH you & J.
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@mrskc: Wow I am stunned by how rude people can be
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@HLK208: that is the most appropriate comment. It is honest and will hopefully teach them something.
@mrs.polish: HAHAHAHAHAHA love it.
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DD is also half asian and half white. MIL's friend kept saying to DH are you sure you're the father to him at a party we were at. He wouldnt stop and it started getting awkward.
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@Mrs. Polish: LOL you're my hero.
My BIL is very blonde and his two brothers (DH and other BIL) have dark brown hair, as does MIL. When they were little people always used to comment on his hair, saying things like "where'd you get that one?" and MIL told me one day BIL broke down crying saying he didn't want to be blonde anymore. How sad is that!!
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So annoying and insensitive! The way he looks at you from what I see on IG, there is no way you couldn't be his mama!
On a side note, your little family reminds me of my own, my dad is Asian and my mom was blonde hair/blue eyes, so my brother and I definitely took after dad's dominant traits.
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@fancyfunction: oh man I'm sorry! People are so rude!
@TurtleDoves: aw thanks! It makes me happy when people say they see me in him too.
@lamariniere: aww thanks!
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@Shutterbug: haha, thanks. People can be so annoying.
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Woah just saw this post and can I say I have been bracing for this comment!!! I'm a tan dark haired latin american, DH is caucasian, and DD has his complexion and strawberry blondish hair coming in. So far, nobody has asked if she's mine, or if I'm the nanny etc. I speak to her in spanish and can picture someone saying that "her parents must love that their child.will be bilingual" or.something
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Heh. Ppl always ask me first thing "what" her dad is. Lolz. I don't really mind because her coloring is totally different from me and it's clear she 's biracial, but I still think it's funny. No one has said she doesn't look like me though.
The best was when my brother visited and went out places with me during the day while my husband was at work. People would look at him and me-- two blonde, blue eyed , VERY pale people and then look at my tan, black haired black eyed baby and I could just see their minds whirring away with wonder .
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@mrskc: I don't think he looks like your DH - he's a beautiful mix of both of you! He is seriously adorable!
When DD was just a newborn, we visited a local restaurant and the owner blurted out how "there's no hint of her pappa". Then proceeded to continue saying how she looks "nothing like him" ... I mean "at all!". We were both kind of blindsided by that comment because he went on and on! We didn't have a come back and just kind of stood there trying to smile and laugh. But I hated how that made me feel for DH (who looked surprised but just went with it). The owner's wife must have talked to him because the next time we ran into him he made sure to say, she's starting to look like him now.
People just don't think sometimes!
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Here's an interesting article!
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/22/health/22real.html?_r=1& -
@Mrs. Jacks: That and "Why do you ask?" are the best comebacks to rude comments & questions!
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I don't mind people saying that since LO DOES look mostly like her Dad. Once I was home from college during break and helping in my Mom's store. My Mom was telling a customer how nice it was to have me home and how I was helping out in the store and the customer came up to the register I was standing at with another employee and turned to the other girl and said, "You are the spitting image of your mother! So nice of you to help her out!" My Mom was like, "Uh, that's not my daughter....." And the lady turned to me and said, " Oh. You must REALLY take after your father." It was pretty funny!
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So rude!! I don't understand why some people can't keep their mouths shut!
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@daniellemybelle: I get that question not infrequently and I just don't even want to let them know they got to me. My comment lets them know that it is all on them!
It's also pretty impolite to talk about one's own anatomy in the kinds of contexts that I'm asked these questions
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We both gets this all the time about S, that he "doesn't look like us at all" from friends, and acquaintances. In reality, his features are quite a bit like DH, and face shape is quite a bit like mine, but he has red/blonde hair and very blue eyes, and Dh and I both have dark hair and green eyes. However, Dh and I were both blonde as small children. It is annoying for sure, people look so superficially, the hair colour alone is enough to discount any resemblance, but what can you do. I usually respond that Dh has pics as they cut him from my body, and we definitely took that same baby home.
Sigh - people just don't know when to shut their mouths.
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