This is half rant half holy crap I need advice! When we found out we were pregnant my IL's offered to help us buy something and eventually settled on buying us a crib. This is really sweet of them however the way they are going about it is really stressing out DH and I. DH told them in the beginning that we had gone to look at several stores and finally settled on a crib. Originally we fell head over heals for a Pottery Barn crib but because we couldn't stomach the cost we searched high and low for a good alternative. The one we settled on is close to the original, really good quality and the right color so we are pretty attached to our choice. We were going to place an order for it until Il's sweetly offered to buy it so we agreed. IL's went to look at it however and apparently decided they didn't like it and have been searching high and low for an alternative. They keep showing us these alternative cribs and pressuring us to agree to one if them. To boot today when we saw them we found out they have picked out bedding and nursery decor that they want to buy us WITHOUT EVER CONSULTING US. We also found out they have looked at buying us a stroller ( we already have one and they know this but maybe it isn't good enough?) car seat we didnt pick and MIL has been busy crafting clothes and picking out accessories. I am thrilled that they are excited and grateful they are offering to help but I am baffled and annoyed that they seem to think it is ok to override us on everything including how we decorate the nursery! It just seems so presumptuous I am having a hard time processing it. We spent hours picking out items and registering for them and in some cases even buying them and I am confused as to why this is all being disregarded. We have both gently and politely tried to express our wishes to them but I am not completely convinced the message is getting through and having all of this pushed on us is really stressing us out! Advice?