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My DH always got me a virgin bloody mary.

I would get the cranberry and lime, or just hold a beer all night. Our friends would catch on to any excuse in 2 seconds, so I would fake it.

@Emsmems: I think using DH as a co-conspirator is a good approach. You can have him get the drinks and always get something that looks alcoholic but isn't. Then no one will notice anything is up. DH and I have talked about this and that is our plan someday.

I had my DH get me club soda and a lime so people thought it was vodka tonic/gin and tonic. I am usually a wine drinker, so I'm not sure how many I fooled. At another event I held a glass of wine and when I put it down, he would take gulps of it. It's great to have your DH there to help you!

What about telling the bride so that she doesn't say something at the time? Or telling them that you just don't feel like drinking and "nurse" a beer all night. I am one of those that notices the differences when people are not drinking.

I usually just held a drink all night! Slip to the bathroom and dump some out. Its easier in a large group of people because there is so much going on!

What about staying clear of her all night .lol as in sit near her but not next to her. Wear high heel shoes so that you will have trouble walking in them already and could appear tipsy by the end of the evening as your feet start to hurt. Hopefully with everything else going on that night she won't be paying that close of attention to the guests

I had two strategies. My SO and my sister were the only ones who knew until about 12 weeks, so at social functions I would only take drinks directly from them, and they would pour me drinks or order drinks that looked just like theirs. If anyone else asked, I'd say, "oh, no thanks, (SO or lil sis) is getting me a drink." This worked beautifully and at one point I even overheard one of my friends telling another one that I def wasn't preggo, cuz she just saw me take a drink. The once I had to fake a shot, I ordered a coke, "drank" the shot, then subtly spit it into my chaser. lol. We also did the share a drink between SO and I and he would drink, I would hold.

If I was somewhere they weren't (like a work function), I'd just say I feel a migraine coming on/or just had a migraine and I feel a little iffy. <--Also a good excuse for leaving a little early. Good luck!

I would use the headache/stomachache excuse. I've also used the excuse that I overindulged earlier in the week and was still recovering.

It's great that your drink is a vodka cranberry, that way it wouldn't look strange for you to order just cranberry! When I was pregnant I would order cranberry and soda with lime, which tasted pretty good. But I normally drank wine, so I don't think anyone was fooled when I started drinking cranberry!

Make sure they put the drinks in the glass they normally put vodka cranberries in though - at a lot of bars I went to, they would use pint glasses, since it's a juice drink and not an alcohol drink. That was nice once people knew (more drink), but not subtle before people knew!