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It depends on what it is. If she's just being plain defiant and tantrum-y I usually say no and explain why. If she continues to throw a tantrum and cry I walk away and ignore. If she's doing something dangerous I put her in timeout. If she keeps playing with the stove I smack her hand, say no and tell her why and put her in timeout. When she is putting herself in danger like thinking the stove is a toy is when I give her a smack on the hand. The other day she kept playing with the knobs on the stove when I had the burner on so I gave her a smack on the hand.

I'm so lost on this as well!! I have a two year old as well and I feel like I reprimand him a lot.

Some situations are easier to deal with - like he wants to walk everywhere! But if he doesn't listen and stay with me, he loses his privilege to walk. It makes him so mad! ha.

I am not a fan of time outs in his room/bed because I always want him to have positive associations with his bed and bed = sleep. I don't want it to be a place of punishment. But he is too young for time outs cause he would never stay in one place.

@Mrs. Pen: I never send M to her room for timeouts. Learned that from having a dog. hahahha Never associate a safe place with a punishment. haha Timeouts are usually in the corner of a room looking at the wall. I only reserve that for dangerous actions. The first few times she tried walking away and running back to me crying but I just bring her back and face her to the wall. Now she knows to stay until I come get her. And it's only for like maybe 45 seconds which is probably an eternity for a toddler!

UGH. And yes. "I walk" is the cause of tantrums almost daily. She wants to walk to the car which isn't a problem in our driveway but a problem in a parking lot! or when we need to leave the house and she wants to keep walking down the street!

@autumnlove: we have a lot of offenses in public, especially at soccer, lol.

I remove him from the field, and we sit in a time out by the benches. You can find a place, lol.

@Mrs. Pen: I would say by the 3rd or 4th time she got it? At the beginning if she kept trying to move away I would sit right next to her to prevent her from moving away. The hard part is when she started to think ti was a game for a while and she would throw something and then say "I bad!" and then run to the corner and stare at the wall then turn her head around to look at me. haha I had to work really hard on not laughing.

@autumnlove: We don't get out much. But when we do she is generally good. The hardest part is usually getting her in the car seat lately. But if she is just flat out bad and beyond reasoning I just let her cry! LOL

Mornings are pretty brutal last few weeks. She has been REFUSING diaper changes. It usually takes two these days at diaper changes. Sometimes it works better if we change for the day after breakfast!

@looch: it's so weird but bedtime routine, diaper change is no problem. Diaper change the rest of the day? EPIC battle.

@HLK208: my mom did that when we were kids! 1 minute per year you are.

@Mrs. Pen: We've had better luck with timeouts in a chair! She would NOT stay when we tried on the floor, but I started putting her in my office chair and she has done much better. C's a walker too. She has started trying to stand up in shopping carts and launching herself at me so I will let her walk. We are strict on the hand-holding too. If she runs off or wont hold our hand, she doesnt get to walk.

@chopsuey: same!
Actually the thing we are having most trouble with at the moment is Little Boy taking ALL the toys away from his baby brother...haven't found a solution for that yet.