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We waited until 8 weeks and 1st u/s with this baby, after 2 c/p after our first 2 IUIs I wanted to get past the point that we got last times, but it was sooo haed since she was a total surprise!!!

We told friends/co workers at 12 weeks!

I say go with when it feela right for you!
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Nobody knew I was pregnant so I waited until 12 weeks. If people knew I was doing IVF, I would have been more open.

I didn't even tell my mother until I was 16 weeks with my first successful pregnancy. The only people who knew earlier were DH (of course), my sister, and my best friend. Ironically, I told work before family and friends both times, because it makes a huge impact on my schedule.

With both my first (missed m/c) and second (successful pregnancy), we told the same people around 7 weeks but the difference was that we got an earlier ultrasound the second time around and actually saw the heartbeat before we told anyone. We only told immediate family and two of colleagues at work (who I am very close to). If/when we have another, I will probably wait until we see a heartbeat again.

We told family right away, work and FB at 12 weeks.

When I had a missed miscarriage, we had told everyone in our families already (we told around 9 weeks, found out at 11).

This time, I told my mom the day I took the test (that's just the way I am with her), told my dad and brother around 10 weeks (after an US with a heartbeat), and told my in-laws at 13 weeks because we were all on a vacation together and we'd had two good ultrasounds at that point.

We told extended family right after that.

I was happy to wait for the larger crowd the second time around...mostly because I was so worried myself that I knew I couldn't handle people checking in on me all the time, as weird as that sounds.

Now that I've written you a book, on to the good stuff...SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!

Ivf #1 we didn't tell anyone we were doing it and told after we were released to an ob (8 weeks). That one stuck.

Fet #1 we were open with doing it. Ended up in a chemical so people knew we got the beta but it was low.

Fet #2 didn't tell anyone we were doing it. Had another chemical.

This time we didn't tell anyone. We have a 3 year old and he knew the whole time. So he told his school. One grandparents came to visit so we told everyone because I knew he would tell them. This was like 10 weeks (earlier than I wanted). Told friends after the anatomy scan (just because of timing and seeing them). I didn't really want to ever tell.

I still haven't told three of my four bosses.

@FliegepilzHut: it worked because we had to tell at those times. After the nt screening is easier because we had some details and had seen the heartbeat a lot. I think it depends on who you think helps and who hinders if something were to go wrong. None of my family has had a loss so they don't get it. In the fets and ivf I had someone that went through the process and losses too. So she knew a lot more and sooner. The 3 yr old is a blabber mouth so that changed things a lot for us.