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Well currently my mom is with DD2 everyday and my dad comes for dinner Fri night to see both the kids. Then we usually don't see them on weekends to give them a "break". But we're regularly sending pics/videos through texts.
We probably talk to his parents a lot less; can probably go a month without contacting them? I think DH does send pics/videos to his mom, but she doesn't usually respond (she does look at them).
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Probably about a week for both sets of parents, though I've gone about 6 months of not speaking with my mother because of issues we've had. I don't think DH has ever gone more than a week. He's usually texting his parents during the week about the kiddos.
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That's how my husband's family is. They could go weeks without talking (and sometimes do). I usually talk to my family at least once a week, and text photos of my son more than that. Although I'm pretty much always the one to contact them. It actually kind of annoys me sometimes because if it's been longer than normal, they'll say, "It's so nice to talk to you, you should call more often!" And I'm like, "Uhhh, you can call me, too..." But they're afraid of "bothering" me or something....
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DH talks to his family multiple times a week. I text my sisters frequently, but I am not very close to my parents anymore. I spent a lot of time as a kid, teenager, and young adult taking care of them (not because they are disabled, but more so because they have made bad choices). So now that I have my own little family, I've taken a break from their drama. We communicate about once a month. Not everyone has the luxury of a close, healthy relationship with their parents into adulthood. I don't think that is weird or crazy.
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I email my mom pretty regularly and we text and she relays stuff to my step-dad who is not a big talker. My husband has a standing phone call to his mom every monday and then they text during the week as needed. My father on the other hand he and I talked maybe once every 3ish months. I was totally fine with the arrangement, he and I didn't have a super close relationship.
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My dad used to text/call on a daily basis (or at least several times per week). He has a new girlfriend, and has kind of disappeared.
I recently had one of the hardest times of my life (intense morning sickness and generally feeling awful during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy), and I would have appreciated his usual encouragement. He's checked in ONCE since January.
What bothers me about my dad's lack of communication is he tells my extended family that we chat all of the time (and he does think comments on FB and Instagram are a suitable replacement for actual communication). He didn't tell me that my grandfather's health was deteriorating rapidly - likely not living more than 6 months - but he communicated to my family that I *did* know what was happening, so no one reached out to let me know.
It's like a psychological problem with him, and it's really, really odd. He has no idea we know the sex of our baby, my husband cut his long hair (silly), details about our upcoming move, or any updates with our 3.25 year old who is AMAZING right now. It's really sad to me, but I can only reach out so many times before realizing the other person has to try too. Sigh.
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A few days max. I get a text message if I haven't been in contact with them for awhile. My husband's gone a long time without contacting his parents. We had a stretch of a few months where they never called to FaceTime with the kids or anything. Really weird to me.
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My parents and I talk daily (either texting, email, talking on the phone, or in person). They wouldn't go more than 24 hours without contacting me somehow. DH and his family could go weeks without talking though. There have been times (before DS) where his family wouldn't contact him for over a month. My husband's mom passed away when he was 13 though and I suspect there would be much more communication if she was still alive.
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@cascademom: It IS weird, especially when kids are involved. You'd think they'd want to FaceTime all of the time!!
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My mom would call me within 30 minutes after I get off work if she didn't hear from me. She would be calling the police by 9 pm if she couldn't locate me!
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@littlejoy: Yep. It's thrown me for a loop over the years. When our first was born, my MIL was so into it. Since we had our second, she and my FIL aren't into talking to the kids at all. They are so uninterested in their grandchildren. It's just mind boggling to me. They seem even less interested in their adult son's life too. I just don't get it.
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