How often do you and your SO go on a date? This is without the kids, and I didn't use date night, since a date can be any time of the day. I know this can vary from person to person, but I'm trying to figure out what the average is.
-
Not very often - maybe a few times a year when there's a good movie we want to see. We'll do a day date and go out while the kids are in daycare.
But we also didn't really go out on "dates" much before kids, so this is pretty normal for us - we just go during the day instead of at night now.
-
Once a month for a lunch date during the week, then once a month for dinner on a weekend and another one time during the month at random, like a movie or some other activity.
-
Ugh, not enough. We don't really have anyone other than MIL to watch the kids, and I don't like to be a bother with it. Once DD gets older, I want to find a babysitter I trust to come over once in while. But for now, we make do.
-
We meet for lunch on workdays normally once a week, but I don't really count that.
A proper date not scrunched inbetween work hours is probably 1x a month to every 5-6 weeks.
-
Less than 3 times a year. We go out together with other people fairly often, but rarely alone. We actually just realized this a few weeks ago and went on a date this past weekend. Not gonna lie, it was kind of weird. Ha ha. We're going to try and start back up to once a month or so. I can't see us going out any more than that.
-
Very rarely. Probably every 3 months or so.
-
For the first four years of having kids- about 3 times a year, when we had family in town or a friend could watch them. This year the younger one started preschool, so we go out about once a month, usually for breakfast.
-
We need to work on this, but we always feel guilty that the in laws are at our house late (they live a 1/2 hour drive away) or that we are keeping the kids up so late. We need to think about trying lunch dates.
-
I said 4-7 times per year. We don't have any family around so have to pay a high school babysitter to go out, so it doesn't happen very often.
-
Probably around once a month. Yet tomorrow's dinner will be our 4th time out in a month. Have
to get them in before the new baby comes. -
Less than once a year so I'm the one 'Never' vote.
We haven't been out just the two of us for over a year and a half. -
4-7x a year. We are going to make more of an effort to go out on dates this year. We will likely have to pay for a sitter for most of them!
-
@rachiecakes: this was us up until last year when BIL moved back.
-
We have recently gotten much better at doing this and it makes a huge difference. We aim for at least once per month now. Previously it was like once every 6 months or something.
-
I voted 4-7 times a year... For DD's first year of life, we probably went out 4 times and 3 of those are birthdays and anniversary, haha! This year we vow to go out more!!
-
We just started going out more frequently and it is amazing! We moved into a house last May and behind us lives a house with 6 daughters! And they are super nice and wonderful-- we use the 15 year old, but if she isn't available we have backups.
@rachiecakes- totally creep-ing, but we live outside Boston (DH and I work in the city) and have a 4 year old, I'll babysit for you! Date nights rock and I know how hard (and expensive!) it is to find a babysitter
-
2-3 times/month - but I counted anytime that we have someone watch our kid and we go out and do something fun whether that be just us or with friends.
-
We made an effort to do it every other week in the last couple months of my pregnancy. Maybe not a real date but going out to eat without DS. I don't see it happening for quite awhile with DD here now though.
-
Pretty much never
-
Never!
Our dates are DD napping in the car while we get takeout. It is something!
-
Only a few times a year. Prior to having kids we never really went on many dates either. I think we're just home bodies and enjoy relaxing at home much more. We get about 1-2 hours a night by ourselves after the kids are asleep which is good enough for us. we don't feel like we're missing out by not going out on dates more.
eta- we've been together since high school so almost 15 years.. maybe thats part of the reason why we don't really go on dates anymore?
-
About 5 times a year
His birthday, my birthday, our anniversary and one random date during the summer usually and once during the fall/winter.
We just found a great baby sitter so I hope we can get out more often!!
-
I picked 4-7x per year. We have family close, but they watch her during the day almost every weekday while we work so we feel bad asking them to do even more. In the past year though we've been out 6-7 times alone.
-
Never. Our parents used to offer to watch him when they came to visit (which we only sometimes took my mom up on) but no one has offered lately and we feel bad asking. We went out for a later dinner after he was in bed in August. Before that... Went to a friends after he was in bed in like January of last year??
-
We ask one of the grandmas to help and they thankfully are always willing. We had one date afternoon and one 2 day getaway this month. Have a date night planned for next month.
-
We've been out three times since DD1 was born. She turns three tomorrow.
-
I voted once a month...which is okay but I wish it were more often. All of our family is local and willing to watch our LOs but DH's work schedule is hard to work around.
-
A couple of times a year. Id love it to be more often but I don't see that happening any time soon.
-
@rachiecakes: I joined you.
We've been out twice in 26 months.
-
Probably in the 4-7 times a year category.
-
We go out during the day a lot, we work about 5 minutes from each other so we try to do a lunch date once a week, but sometimes we miss a week or two. When we see my parents they are happy to babysit, so we do that may 3 or 4 times a year. We do have a local babysitter too, that we use every few months, though we haven't used her since October due to all the holidays.
-
Maybe 3-4 times a year? We live away from family (military life!) so we usually only go out when we have family visiting, we also have a 9mo so going out on our own has really only become an option again over the last little while. Having said that we are ditching the kids with friends and heading out for a winery lunch for our fifth wedding anniversary in February
-
At least once a month.
-
I voted once a month, sometimes it's less, sometimes it's more. We used to go out a lot more before we became parents. Money is a factor, we worried much less when we had less responsibilities. We also have only left him with family and everyone is busy it can be hard to coordinate schedules.
-
We used to go out once a month. But not we have 3 and 2of them are infants. MIL lives with us and watches them when we work. (She watches the twins) so we feel really bad asking her to watch them at night and when we do go out we worry what happens if both babies are up at the same time crying and can never enjoy ourselves so then we try to bring someone in to watch and that just gets awkward with MIL there and someone else watching the kids, so we just give up. It sucks but we try.
-
@RLCeigh: so sweet of you!
we need another Boston Bee meet up -
One or two times I month. We travel a lot (mini vacations), so it just depends on how many weekends we are home.
Reply
Subscribe to our newsletter
- Google Plus
- Stumbleupon
- Twitter
- Facebook
- Pinterest
- Favorite0
37 comments