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How often do you sit in the back seat with your LOs, while your SO/DH drives?

  1. loveisstrange

    pineapple / 12526 posts

    She's almost 3. We've never done that.

  2. sarac

    pomelo / 5093 posts

    Literally never in her life.

  3. MapleMoose

    grapefruit / 4213 posts

    I used to all the time, DD1 is 15 months. She didn't need me back there anymore but I was reluctant to move up front because I knew my time was coming to an end. Now DD2 takes up my spot back there.

  4. coopsmama

    cantaloupe / 6059 posts

    One time in DS's life. He's 19 months old. Never with DD who is 6 months old.

  5. Mrs. Train

    blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts

    Once with my oldest on the day we brought him home. I was just so happy we were finally parents I couldn't stop holding his little hand. Plus it was a long drive from the hospital. After that I haven't sat in back.

  6. littleveesmommy

    persimmon / 1472 posts

    Hmm now that I'm reading these replies and notice I am in the minority here. I always want to sit in the front but somehow felt obligated to sit in the back. DD1 doesn't need me back there and I try to leave DD2 alone when in the car since we usually time our trips to coincide with a nap. I think it's my own self guilt. We are in the car with both girls 1.5 hours a day roundtrip - drive to my parents, drop both girls off (daycare for DD1 opens after I have to be at work), park car, work, go to my parents (daycare closes before I get off work...), bath both girls, drive back home, bedtime. Basically Monday thru Thursday the only waking times we spend with both of them is in the car so I stay in the back so I can read books with DD1 and talk with her. That all might change once DD1 starts pre-3k this year but until then, I will likely stay in the back. I hate that our work days are so long but, luckily (I think), I only work M-Th.

  7. .twist.

    pineapple / 12802 posts

    I can count on one hand how many times I've done it since he's been born. So, very rarely.

  8. pui

    bananas / 9899 posts

    So far almost never. DD is nearly 5 months and the only time I've sat next to her while DH drove was on our road trip to visit my family 6 hours away.

  9. Rainbow Sprinkles

    eggplant / 11287 posts

    Never. Not even when we brought them home from the hospital!

  10. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @littleveesmommy: I think if I got that little time with LO in a day I would probably do the same

  11. littleveesmommy

    persimmon / 1472 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: it's definitely a tough schedule for the girls.

  12. nana87

    cantaloupe / 6171 posts

    All the time, but we rarely drive

  13. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @littleveesmommy: I just think that's a really creative way to make it work

  14. namaste

    persimmon / 1313 posts

    Never yet.

  15. 78h2o

    grapefruit / 4441 posts

    Never. My LO asks for me, but my husband likes me to sit up front with him.

  16. littleveesmommy

    persimmon / 1472 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: Aww thanks!

  17. Andrea

    GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts

    A few times but just to hold a bottle while she drank.

  18. cait

    apricot / 268 posts

    I think maybe a couple times in her first weeks or so but after that, not at all.

  19. smores

    cherry / 163 posts

    Always - he HATED the car as a newborn and would cry and scream the entire time during a car trip, even if I was sitting back there with him. And he would always cry and scream when I had to drive solo during my maternity leave. Now at 6 months he's much better and is totally fine when no one is back there but I enjoy sitting with him when DH is driving.

  20. marionberry

    pomelo / 5041 posts

    Only those days when lo is really fussy and just needs a little company. Big road trips I sat back there as well. Overall it's a rare occurrence.

  21. littlejoy

    pomegranate / 3375 posts

    Never? I get extremely carsick. Like, I got a little sick reading the post, ha.

    We did take turns sitting with her during the first month.

    Our girl is 1 now, and hasn't really needed us back there with her yet. If we went on a road trip, my partner would probably pop back a few times. She's rear facing, will be for awhile, and imagine it could get kind of boring?

  22. Purpledaisy

    nectarine / 2973 posts

    Never.

  23. Foodnerd81

    wonderful cherry / 21504 posts

    I did a lot when she was really teeny- hated the car seat, refused a paci but would suck in my pinky. After the first few months it became rare and now just about nonexistent. The most recent time was when she was just really hungry and we were getting home so late, so i sat back there and fed her to avoid a giant mess. She's 18 m now.

  24. jhd

    coconut / 8079 posts

    Commented earlier but came back to say that sometimes the dog sits up front with DH while I sit in back with LO. Pretty sure people who see us out & about (like our server yesterday at Sonic) must think we are crazy.

  25. fairy

    persimmon / 1343 posts

    I rode with her just about every time up until she was about 10 months old, and since then (she's 19 months) I ride in front almost all the time.

  26. Meridian

    pomegranate / 3716 posts

    So interesting, I thought you were supposed to sit back there with the baby!! I've been sitting in the back for the past 14 weeks (unless Im alone and driving). It makes me anxious when he's alone in the back cuz we fusses a lot in the car seat and we need to hold his paci in.

  27. Orchid

    clementine / 927 posts

    He still freaks out to be in the car seat. We make two round trips to take my step daughter to school and bring her home each day (and it seems like torture to him), so when DH and I are together in the car (mostly weekends only) I sit with him and read books.

  28. Dandelion

    watermelon / 14206 posts

    Never. DH will sit with M while waiting for D at school, but since D is usually back there, it never happens.

  29. Charm54

    cantaloupe / 6885 posts

    Only on long car trips if she gets fussy

  30. ElbieKay

    pomegranate / 3231 posts

    Almost never. I briefly started doing it when he was around 6mos old and started to hate the car. It only worked a portion of the time, and then actually his ped recommended against setting the precedent.

    He still does not love the car but had gotten better about it. We only drive on the weekends, and not every weekend. We try to time it so that he's likely to sleep during the trip.

  31. sarac

    pomelo / 5093 posts

    @littleveesmommy: I would do exactly the same in your situation!

  32. JerricaBenton

    pomegranate / 3872 posts

    Never, other than a handful of times in the first few weeks. It never occurred to me that this is something people do regularly, other than if your child has health issues. We talk to each other and she tells me what she sees outside and sings. She's fine back there.

  33. Finfan

    persimmon / 1436 posts

    A lot when LO (now 2) was a baby and HATED the car seat. DH and I thought it was safer for him to drive without all the screaming. Improved tremendously after we turned the car seat around at 18 months. Haven't sat in the back seat since.

  34. LemonLong

    pear / 1698 posts

    I have never sat in the backseat with the kids. We've taken at least 6 8+ hour trips with the kids. My kids are 2 and 6 months.

  35. Jess1483

    nectarine / 2641 posts

    Often, but usually to keep him awake rather than to keep him calm. We did have one particularly awful car trip at 6 months where we sat with him for stretches, and a 12-hour travel day where we probably sat with him for 1-2 hours total for entertainment.

  36. Amelieisme

    persimmon / 1361 posts

    Never, except for part of the time on long trips when they are extra fussy, in which I have been known to wedge myself between their two seats. Ouch!

  37. GrapeCrush

    grapefruit / 4823 posts

    With DS, I did for the first few weeks and then only when he was really fussy. When DD came I only squeeze between them if she's super fussy, but that was barely a handful of times

  38. jetsa

    grapefruit / 4663 posts

    Never. I might sit back there for a minute if he's losing it but other Tgan that Nope. Even when we were nursing I didnt. The logistics of nursing in the car seat aren't particularly safe

  39. ShootingStar

    coconut / 8472 posts

    Pretty much never. I did it when we brought him home from the hospital, and when he was 4m we were on vacation and driving a lot and he was constantly screaming and losing the pacifier. But I haven't done it since that trip, almost a year ago.

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