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Hubs doesn't usually get involved in conversations between his mother and I, but he USUALLY takes my side, or he'll say things like "I'll do whatever Adira wants me to do" if his family is encouraging him to do something that he knows I'm not for.

For some things, I think he does take his mom (or other family members) side, but he never vocalizes it in front of them and will just tell me privately his stance if it's different than my own. I really appreciate that in front of his family, we're a unified front.

I choose other because my answer is never. He hates his mom. She's so mean & has put him through so much crap he doesn't talk to her anymore. Even with his step mom we don't have any of those issues he really keeps to himself on things. we don't have any kids yet so I'm sure there will be a time or two that it will happen.

I've never really had a conflict with his mother before but long ago we had agreed that even if we disagreed with one another, we would present a united front to third parties. So I'm confident that if I did have a conflict with his mom or anyone else, he would take my side.

DH is always on my side.

He is always on my side with family issues. Just like I'm always on his side with my family.

He always takes my side. I have a wonderful MIL so he doesn't have to often.

I'd say most of the time. When my MIL visited during my maternity leave, she picked a fight with me and there was tons of drama (all from her). During that situation, my husband clearly sided with his mom, out of fear, habit, whatever. I felt horribly ganged up then. It was hugely disappointing that he did that. Almost immediately after the incident, we started marriage counseling. It's taken a lot of time to get past it. We'll be visiting his family soon. I've brought it up a number of times that I need to know that he supports myself and our family when we're visiting. So, we're still working on issues around what happened.

@bluestriped bee: If you have problems with your MIL now, you'll have the same problems amplified with pregnancy and baby. What happened stemmed for issues that have been around since I became his girlfriend, fiance, and wife. It's taken a lot of time and counseling to get to a better place in our marriage since the incident. Our future visit there will be another test of our marriage. The sad part is that everything would have been okay for awhile longer if his mom didn't do what she did.

Also, she did this when LO was about 9-10 weeks old. So, I was home and balancing new motherhood with breastfeeding, etc. Her reckless behavior put LO and myself at risk because I wasn't getting enough calories to feed him and my supply dipped. She only cared about the bs drama. I cared about my son and wanting her out of the house.

I don't think I've ever really had a disagreement with my MIL. I know there have been differences in the way we do things but she's pretty open to us doing things differently than she does. I guess if there were ever a disagreement, DH would probably take my side unless I was being totally crazy and unreasonable.

In the beginning we had alot of issues with DH's mom & initially he sided with her. My mom actually had a talk with DH telling him something about myself which may a pretty big difference.... She told him,

"She will ALWAYS take your side infront of me. You could be wrong as the day is long and she would stand with you. She may say something to you when you two leave, but to me?... never."

Now, DH ALWAYS takes my side to his mother and I think maybe once or twice we had a discussion regarding the issue and my stance later b/c I was being a tad out of line. Thankfully we haven't had any issues in awhile and I think she's finally accepted I'm here to stay. lol

Every time... but we both agree his mother is crazy. We love her hut the woman is insane. Lol

We've had a lot of arguments over this because DH doesn't like to make waves, and always tries to play devil's advocate. We actually had a big blowup about it around Thanksgiving. We have a lot of issues with his family and food - his sister is vegan and I am unfortunately very picky (I don't like most veggies) and I get low blood sugar if I don't eat often enough.

When we were engaged he ALWAYS took his mother's side. Honestly the best thing for our marriage was moving 1000 miles away from his family, he was a momma's boy to the point it was a detriment to our relationship and I knew it would be an issue in our marriage... guess that's what happens when guys live with their mom til they're 25 haha just kidding.

Anyway now it's a much better and he mostly takes me side.

Uh this is an issue for us. My MIL does a lot of things that annoy me. I keep my mouth shut to her but will ask my husband to address it and he doesn't. He will flat out tell me that he knows I'm right. For instance it drives me f*ing nuts when they invite themselves to come stay with us and give us very little warning and it annoys him too but he doesn't want to say anything because he's afraid of hurting their feelings. They give him a lot of guilt about the fact that we live far away (it was HIS job that brought us here). I think the guilt makes him feel like he needs to bend over backwards to accommodate them when we see them.

Always, thank goodness!