If my almost 1 year old gets a bit too fussy or worse throws a tantrum my husband gets this pained annoyed look on his face as though he wants to die. He only lets it bounce off of him when it is very short lived and he will make remarks in an annoyed and not silly voice like "you are being a real jerk right now" or moan and groan and say our child's name. I feel jarred by tantrums too but I really feel stressed our m my husbands lack of tolerance or mood control. He has always had a bit of a short fuse for stress and anger. Never acts out physically but can say things that are not very nice. He is 31. Do any of you deal with this? How do you handle it?
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@MrsMccarthy: ugh, I'm sorry you have to worry about this. My husband has infinitely more patience than I do. I've gotten flustered a few times with the baby and he just calms me and the baby down easily. I'm jealous of his skills!
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My husband is a saint. He has never, ever raised his voice or expressed frustration in an unhealthy way... when we were dating I was really concerned only because I wondered if he was the type that bottled things up and one day explodes but I have come to learn that he just doesn't get upset hardly ever. It really amazes me because I'm the one who gets upsets/impatient easily.
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My husband is significantly more patient than I am.
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Im ashamed to say that you've just described me.
My DH is an intolerant person by nature, he'd be the first to admit, but his patience level is still infinitely higher than mine when it comes to DD's crying. Its my biggest wish right now, to be more patient... I dread to think how i will feel when she's a toddler...
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Um, yeah, that's me, too. E was getting bonkers in the car one day and I said, "ugh shut up" under my breath. He looked at me and said, "come on now". He just has to keep me in check sometimes. I'm really not patient and never have been and I'm working on it. It has more to do with my inability to be patient than it does the baby's actions...I know she can't help it!
We will both make comments like, "ugh, the baby's being a nutjob right now" when she is. *shrug* Just calling it like we see it
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I feel very impatient as well when LO is fussy. I often tell her that she is not going to get what she wants by whining and walk away. I do try and communicate on a more sympathetic level because I am sure there is more to it than what it seems. Hopefully your DH can try and more helpful and if he cant then remove himself from the situation if he is going to say something rude.
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My husband wears a shimmering halo of patience. I'm thankful, cause I have far less.
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He's WAY more patient than I am! I've surprised myself with how patient I've become since becoming a mom (I was really worried about this during pregnancy), but I definitely still have room for improvement.
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DH has waaaay more patience than I do. I'm usually the one groaning and rolling my eyes at DDs tantrums or fussiness. But I also think I deal with her more so my patience wears thin faster.
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I'm more patient with DS than he is...but he's more tolerant of the animals than I am. I wonder how the dynamic will be with his own bio LO. I have a feeling he or she will get him wrapped around his or her finger, lol.
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@BeachMama: totally agree, that can be a huge factor!!
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DH is kind of like this - he becomes short with DS but mostly when he's tired or upset about something else. At that point, I tell him that I can take over and that's usually his que to calm down. I don't want B to feel like he needs to walk on eggshells when dad is being impatient. DH says he is really trying to work on it. His dad was the same way when he was growing up.
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I'm more patient with Lo than dh is, I think bc I'm with him more so am used to his fusses and crying. Dh also tends to get annoyed after a while especially when it's in a confined space like a car.
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