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We went through/are going through this now, but mostly because we're just so darn tired all of the time. So, we had a long talk about it and we decided to do a few things...two nights a week we don't even go near our computers after dinner. Instead, we read a book together (on our separate kindles) and talk about it. He picked the first one and he gets to pick the second one from my Amazon list. This has helped us tremendously.

We've also done massage nights and showers during nap time.

We're trying to go out on lots of date nights. Not anything fancy, just like a short walk and a jamba juice, or out to pho or something. Backrubs, holding hands, lots of hugs, and a little bit of making out are good too It's hard though, because even snuggling on the couch to watch a movie is too uncomfortable most of the time!

we hold hands a lot, although you probably have your hands full with your toddler! we also say "i love you" all the friggin' time. it sounds silly but it helps. also, i really like to have at least 15 minutes right before we go to bed without tv or a computer to just pillow talk or read side by side. for some reason, reading side by side as opposed to surfing the internet side by side (which happens a lot in this household!) is more meaningful to me. don't ask me to explain why.

Like edelweiss and mamamoose every night before bed, we spend some time (usually about half an hour, sometimes up to an hour) just talking. Sometimes we cuddle while we talk, but that's not so much with the comfort anymore.

It's a tradition we started years ago...we lay down and think about and share the best parts of our day, although sometimes it leads to conversations about other things. Even if we were together when they happened we like to remind each other of all the good things that happened--even if it's small like a particularly good cup of coffee--because I'm convinced that reminding/being reminded of even the small things helps us remember them long-term. And the other benefit of it is that I go to sleep with with happy thoughts and memories on my mind instead of stresses.

Other things we do include taking a nightly walk together, even if it's only 20 minutes, foot and back rubs (usually for me, but sometimes for him), and reading--he'll read to me before bed, or he'll sit in the bathroom while I'm in the tub and read.

Making out, snuggling, and lots of casual affection got us through. I also noticed that simple things like sitting next to each other got us to hold hands or curl up on one another, but staying on separate chairs/couches meant that wasn't possible.