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How to raise girls with a good self image?

  1. Mrs. High Heels

    blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts

    I think modeling is huge.

    I am very conscious about never criticizing myself or other women. I don't assign "good" or "bad" foods - she's allowed to eat everything within moderation. I try to set an example by living a healthy lifestyle.. sometimes I even do home workouts with her right next to me so she's just jumping up and down while I exercise. I want our focus as a family to be about health, wellness, and strength… not about a number on a scale or the size of your clothes.

    @blackbird: Agree!

  2. MrsStormy

    clementine / 818 posts

    I'm a little late to this party but I agree with a lot of what has been said. I really believe in modeling healthy attitudes about my self to my children, I believe its important to not just avoid criticizing myself in front of my daughter but show her I take care of myself (which I am totally still working on, having a baby killed my self care motivation), by eating healthy more often than not, putting on clothes that make me feel good about myself. I think it is important to genuinely help myself get to a place where I feel good about myself whether that takes extra effort getting dressed, putting on make up or just mentally re framing my perspective of myself.

    I also think its important to balance telling my daughter she is lovely and beautiful with telling her she is smart, she is kind, she is talented, or whatever. Even now at only 6 months old she gets told all the time how beautiful she is, I always make a point of telling her (and whoever else) that while yes she is beautiful, she is more beautiful on the inside than she is on the outside because she is sweet, kind, and fun.

    It is so important to instill self worth in our daughers and I think to have that they need to feel good about the way they look, they need to know that we think they are beautiful, but even more important they need to know they are worth SO MUCH MORE than just their physical appearance, which is also something I think we can help them with by modeling, through how we treat others, how we interact with friends, how we invest our time outside of our family and within out family.

  3. anandam

    kiwi / 687 posts

    As you said I think the biggest thing we can do is have a good self/body image ourselves and make sure our partners echo admiration of our female body/self. Pretty sure my issues can all be traced to Mom's comments about herself (and others) or to the way my Dad talked about her.

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